Help knowing what is 'normal' please

[mariammama]

Thats it really. Have 3 dc, eldest definitely has ADHD and asd. Quite complex due to high IQ, so hits most milestones but via an unusual route iykwim.

Younger ones have various quirks and traits, but also areas of 'normal' development. Need to have a chat to the HV about whether the concerns add up to anything.

My bookshelf is full of ASD stuff, used to have some regular child development books but turfed them . Need something fairly scientific and definite I think as 'all babies develop at different rates, make sure you cuddle them' would be flung through a window

Caroline Bowen, an internationally renowned SLT has some good info on her webpage about language development (expressive and receptive). Also the Parent's Guide to Speech and Language problems by Debbie Feit has some good charts (library likely to have a copy as well).

Thank you, great site.

Will look out for the book

Tbh we are all so different in this household I am not exactly sure what "normal" is

We tend to put it to be as what is comfortable for us :)

What about the HV "little red book"? If I remember that had a few milestone checks in them just to give you a head start.

DD was walking at 12 months and running at 13 talking at 9months in sentence. Slightly querky ie art mad, lego mad at 11, still likes her cuddlys and would rather be engrossed in minecraft than socialising and has to be shoved out the door. Saying that she is still a social child when out in public and she is invited everywhere much to her disgust!

Eldest DD talked very early again but didnt walk till just over 24 months and had a strange gait she was an insistent bum shuffler till then. She took longer to absorb things than the other two and prefered to just sit and read behind a chair than be social but she is classed as NT.

I think your instinct is going to play a major part and what a view home videos for memory jogs :)

Coff, will do some home videoing this weekend, think it will show what I mean better than saying it. The red book stuff would have been useful if I'd bothered to fill it in . Though I could start now . Most of it seems to boil down to 'can he talk alright' from memory though, I remember it was falsely reassuring to me with ds1...