Dd weird?

[sahs1969]

My dd is in yr 7 and has settled in fairly well, struggles with the work, but I am trying to keep on top of that with her form tutor.
What upset me tonight was that coming home from school she was telling me how people think she is weird and these are people she was friends with at the beginning of yr 7!
Now dd does have SPLD and lots of traits of ASD - we are seeing the Paed tomorrow as dd is getting depressed, feels lonely but just doesn't know how to act normal. She is 12 tomorrow and when she is around other kids acts more like 6! Now if she behaves like this at school I guess the other kids do find her odd! But I just don't know where to go from here and what to say to her....the age gap is becoming bigger and bigger and much more noticeable now at high school.
Thanks
Sarah

I guess there is no statement in place for DD?.

What county do you reside in?.

Secondary school is particularly hard for those children whose needs are simply not being met by school. This certainly seems to be the case here.

Have you seen the SENCO at this school, if so what was this person's response.

Hi sahs and welcome to the board.

My Dd3 has a diagnosis of ASD, her social skills are roughly 2 yrs behind and her academic skills are probably above her age. This can lead to problems at school, especially with girls.

Dd3 simply cannot cope with the other girls in her groups at school as there interests are completely alien to her. Their conversations move to fast and their social rules are far too complicated.

At her old school she had no choice of friends and became very unhappy trying to cope alone without any support in place. After we moved her to a more inclusive school, she was encouraged to be herself and she is accepted for who she is.

I agree with atilla that you need to go and see the senco and see what can be done to help your Dd.

Good luck

There's a great 'rule book' called Asperkids' secret guide to social rules' by Jennifer Cook O'Toole. Might help her.

Silk I just looked at that book on Amazon and it looks great- thanks.

OP have you heard of Theory of Mind? I found it helpful to manage my DS once I understood this.