I have twin sons 4.10, one ASD dx at 3.5, which was not a shock at all, it was pretty obvious. They started school in September in different classes, but within one foundation unit. He has 1-2-1 support and he has a very experienced LSA, and school is fantastic. I am now worrying that I have been so focused on getting the help and support in place for him, since well before dx that I feel that I may have missed less obvious issues with his twin brother.
He is very clumsly, very heavy footed and falls over fresh air and is always bumping into things. I have always put this down to his need to rush everthing he does. Conversely his fine motor is fantastic and he has been writing quite clearly since preschool and his teacher comments how great his colouring in is, in that he stays completely within the lines. No issues with concentration.
He talked early, but some pronunciation issues that he had when younger have not gotten any better. He shouts rather than talks, this has been noticed at school as they are practicing the christmas play and he is singing so loud that the teachers have to speak with him about singing so loudly. his teacher has asked whether he has ever had his ears tested.
He is becoming a very anxious child, for example - biting nails, getting very distressed if he doesn't know where I am at home, however no issues with going to school or going out with others. He also gets very upset if he can't do anything. On the flip side he is very easily excited
He has always been a very loving and caring child, often presenting as a child much wiser and capable than his years and is very inquisitive about the world, asking questions.
He will tell me that nobody plays with him at school and I am beginning to think he is struggling to understand things social play.
I know it's easy when you has one child with ASD to home in on the tiniest of issues with your other children, so I may not be thinking too rationally and looking for things that arn't there, or am I missing something with him due to the fact that with his brother is was very clear. We have always been very carefull to not make him feel left out, due to all the attention his brother has received.