conflict

[devilishmangerdanger]

what do you do about it?

especially when the child's needs are being overlooked and the profs are arguing amongst themselves in disagreement?

You set it all down in writing and ask people to clarify their positions.

the social worker is holding a meeting this week, to try and get 'somewhere' how do you think she should (or I should) be conducting this meeting?

How do we turn things around face to face?

To be honest I think it would very much depend on the details.

But if you are confident, then you would set the agenda yourself and ask people to submit in writing in advance what they think they can bring to the meeting (otherwise why are they there?) and what outcomes they consider are likely as a result for yoru child.

a bit late to get it in writing for thursday's meeting, so do you think it was wrong of the SW to call a meeting to thrash it out?

No. SW isn't wrong. Just doing things the way they always do things I expect.

Without having the details though it is very difficult to discuss how you might play it.

9 years of conflict between everyone, son was born with an obvious disability, has huge issues not linked to his syndrome, school says, salt disagree, ed psyc says something else that sort of thing. Getting DS nowhere. PCP last week highlighted how the conflict needs to stop to move DS on. Don't know what details tbh the whole affair is a mess. It's devientenigma btw, name changed for christmas.

It's okay! I guessed who you were. I suppose I am just wondering 'why now?' and also what this SW motivations are.

Do you think it is genuine?

I suppose what you want in writing is:

A list of all the reported difficulties (regardless of whether everyone agrees)
A list of the different perspectives on each of those difficulties.
A list of areas of disagreement.

That is the LEAST you need to move forward. That is, a clear picture of WHERE YOU ARE.

I think she is. Just no one is taking notice of her, or anyone who can say similar to me in comparison to school.

Maybe the why now? is because he doesn't do much and they can't be seen to be allowing him to exist.

I think she hopes to eventually get answers.

However I feel we are always going to be in this conflict and getting nowhere, so just trying to help her along.

That's great star that could still be achieved in the meeting on Thursday, all set into minutes

You know when you read quickly... and miss read... I read that as achieved in the meeting and set to music ...

sorry don't mean to be flippant, (and hope meeting is useful use of your time)