GRRRRRRRRR
Found out DS was not attending the Friday assembly where the whole school attend and share their successes.
He is a wriggler and gets bored and in Foundation he would sit on a TA's lap for the duration and if he really could not cope would be taken out to do something else. I know, beacsue parents are asked to attend the sharing assemblies and I was asked to look after him if he got removed as they didn't have the staff to cover it (!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
The new term stated, and the new teacher decided to see how DS would cope in the sharing assesmbly (30-40 minutes). DS attended all but one of the assemblies - when his teacher was off he did not go to it.
He coped fine. It was commented onin his IEP discussion, and was so well behaved that the HT (who is also the SENCO and should bloody well know what progress he is making) who takes the assembly had not even noticed he was there.
Fast forward to after half term, the excellent teacher that has only been there for 6 weeks leaves with no notice (assumed she had fallen out with HT and asked to leave as she was Sooooooooo different and so much better) and the HT is back teaching DS class again, and he's being excluded from class activities again....not because he has been disruptive, but because he MIGHT be disruptive , and because its easier for them to set up an activity at the get go and keep DS out rather than have to .
The TA that is supposed to be there to support DS negated responsibility saying she just does what the teacher tells her to do.
HT stated the following
a) HT is taking assembly AND covering the class teacher role and so IF he(or the other 2 or 3 kids with special needs) was disruptive its a lot of hassle to deal with him and remove him and its not something that she can do, so she decided not to include them at all.
b) HT had not bothered to find out what was happening before half term to carry on the good work that had been done and went back to how things were managed in Foundation year, regardless of how damaging that might be.
HT then complained they were paying for a TA to support him for 10 hours and were not getting funding for her, but apparently she cant be used to support DS during assembly. The TA is not being used to support DS exclusively at any time and HT is putting the children who dont cope with assembly in her care to play games and keep them out of the way, for convenience.
I dont think it is acceptable. AIBU???
DS does not know why things have changed, he thinks it might be because he is not liked by HT and she doesnt want him there , or he is naughty but doesn't really understand why.
Inconsistancy is a major problem for DS.
He clearly also thinks that if he makes enough fuss about other things he doesn't much want to do (coming in form playtime, tidingup at the end of the , stopping PE and changing back into uniform) they will stop insisting he does them and be allowed to just play instead......evidenced by recent behaviour changes.
So basically the HT is making changes that are damaging to DS development of self esteem and understanding of what is expected, where he fits in, because they lost a member of staff and its easier to manage if you exclude him rather than include and support.
Time to change schools? I think it may well be.