A bit closer to a diagnosis, but it aint a good one

[hiddenhome]

started a thread in Chat here

[mariammma]

And btw, on your other thread you're being incredibly harsh on your naive, abused, 14-years-younger, post-natally depressed self. Hope you've snapped out of it now. You've had a guilty twinge, acknowledged it, felt sorry and made reparation, so it's time to let it go. Otherwise it'll just focus you on all the wrong things and preventably block you from actually loving and helping your ds.

Which really would be a good reason for guilt!

[hiddenhome]

How can I get referred to a proper paediatrician though? We live in the NE and don't have access to specialist centres.

I'm scared this guy is leading us down the wrong path now

[mariammma]

North East is fine. Call here and find out how to get seen by this very eminent person's team.

[mariammma]

The Camhs guy is right about the narcissism being a big problem. He's probably right about there being some attachment disorder / hangup stuff. But being right about the absence of ASD in a smart, complicated dc really does takes an expert. And it matters cos narcissistic traits alone are likely to be managed differently than when they occur ASD or PDA, or whatever else.

[hiddenhome]

I'm no further forward am I?

God, this just keeps going on and on round in circles.

Why the hell can't I get to see a paed?

I will take a look at that link mariammma

[hiddenhome]

Okay, have looked and she's based in Newcastle, that's very good. Will see about being referred, but doubt they will do it whilst I'm seeing this CAMHS bloke

I'm going to ring the school nurse tomorrow to ask why I'm seeing a psychologist instead of a paed. Perhaps the doctor attached to the school nursing service could refer me?

I really do feel like I'm caught up in some Kafkaesque nightmare here. I'm really feeling on shaky ground and that someone/thing is delibrately thwarting my attempts to get help and I don't know why

Thank you to everyone who's listening to me and suggesting ways of accessing help. I really do appreciate it.

[Ineedalife]

God hidden he really does sound like my Dd1.

Dd1 is seriously opinionated and truely believes that her view is the only one that matters.

In fact due to poor Theory of mind, she doesnt even realise that other people have an opinion

[hiddenhome]

about your dd1

[hiddenhome]

The GP only ever refers us to CAMHS. This is what I mean, we keep going round in circles.

What age was your husband diagnosed Leonie? I have a bad feeling that this is going to drag on for years and then when he's a lot older it'll all come out and I'll be sitting there rocking in the corner jibbering "I did try, I did try" This is so draining for us and, in the meantime, ds isn't receiving any help. What will happen to him if he doesn't receive the proper help? We support and supervise him as best we can, but what is the prognosis in the medium term if he does have ASD?

And, who are all these people who do receive a proper assessment? Who the heck do you have to sleep with or bribe in order for this to be done? I really don't know what to say to these people for them to take us seriously.

[Ineedalife]

I think my Dd1 has self diagnosed, whether she will ever get a formal Dx I dont know.

We went round in circles with Dd1 from age 4-9 and then I gave up, having been told it was my parenting that was causing the problem

With Dd3 we went round in circles from 5.5 until 9 when the DISCO was done and ASD was diagnosed.

Dd3 is not as mercenary[sp] as Dd3, she has alot more sensory and co ordination issues so I suppose ultimately she was easier to diagnose.

The thing which helped us most was the diary TBH, it finally made proffs sit up and listen, when they realised what we were trying to manage on a daily basis.

We were also lucky that there was an ASD friendly MH nurse at CAMHS who referred us on to a psychiatrist who had been trained to do the DISCO.

Sorry hidden not really much help. Would Nottingham be accessible for you?
Google the Lorna Wing Centre.

[hiddenhome]

What made him go to the doctor about it Leonie? How easy was the process for his assessment?

[imaginingitornot]

What about the speech therapy route? Doesn't tread on Camhs toes, and depending who you see, sometimes they're autism experts. Also ask school if he can go on educational psychologist waiting list (will take forever but worth trying)