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Ds's playbased assessment went well...

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Ihavenobum · 21/11/2012 10:33

Ds 7, is currently in the process of assessments for ASD. He attended his playbased assessment the other day which the clinical psycologist said went well. She also mentioned that they had already been into school to observe(kept that one quiet...hadn't got a clue!) and said that they would not need to see Ds again we just need to attend the parental interview as soon as an appointment is made......Can someone please tell me this is a good thing?? that they don't need to see Ds again...because they think all is well??

Something that I found unsettling was the enthisis on ME (Dh was there but she didn't seem to acknowledge him at all) it was as though the psycologist was trying to see his response when she told him that MUM will wait in reception while he went into the room, but to be honest I had already forwarned Ds several times during the morning that he would go off and play some games with the nice ladies he had met before while we waited..which he seemed happy about but he did say to begin with that he would rather I went in. Also when he came back out it was a case of "look theres your MUM" no mention of dad again. Ds didn't enjoy the assessment because there was no lego like before, and the lady wanted to be an alien and he didn't want to play that (this was about as much as he told us, we didn't really ask any questions) he seemed subdued when he came out..closely followed by a small outburst in the car because the toy he had chosen for school that morning wasn't the right one! it HAD to be changed before he went to school.

I think I know where this is going....its me isn't it? Its all going to be down to attachment...I knew it would be my fault...gutted Sad

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sannaville · 21/11/2012 11:09

Greatest sympathies ihave! I've recently had a pead letter that says 'attachment difficulties' in it. The letter has been sent to camhs and I have my first app with them today so am veryyyy anxious! Attachment issues never been mentioned to me before until this letter!

They could have been just trying to gauge his response to seeing his main.caregiver and see his emotions perhaps. Sometimes once they've made their mind up they never see the child again anyway so may not be as bad as you think

sagandswing · 26/11/2012 23:50

Thank you sannaville my stomach has been constantly churning since that day! Its so strange because right now I want to know, I NEED to know, but at the same time I don't want to know...OMG My thoughts are so messed up! I'm trying to remain open minded but it aint working.

sannaville · 27/11/2012 11:12

Well camhs went well for us and they believed me and didn't think I was neurotic! Think the nursery report helped!

When do you find out results??

sagandswing · 27/11/2012 13:43

Good to hear that sannaville I bet that has put your mind at rest :)

Not sure when we will be told, thats why I was trying to get an idea of others experiences on here.

Unfortunately Ds's school went on the defensive after I upset a member of staff last year (whom sent in a very lengthy "report" of her own along side the questionnaires which camhs had sent for the school to fill in) so I can imagine in a cover her own arse kind of way she made me look like a complete loon! Dh and myself had already been out to the first meetings with camhs which they told me they knew all about the school Confused which had me slightly baffled because I hadn't actually mentioned anything???. but then after they had received the above mentioned "report" I sensed a bit of subtle hostility from the same proffessional whom called us in again to go through all the info they had gathered and give the go ahead for further assessments sooo gawd knows what she had written but I should imagine it wasn't good!...I try to think that the proffessionals would be able to work out for themselves what may be the truth but after the experience mentioned in opening post now I'm not too sure :(.

I am all set to be told "it's all you..get yourself off on a parenting course..goodbye!" which I suppose would be a good thing because if it is me I can do something about that, but also I would be devastated and furious because we are only where we are now because of the school!

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