Irrational fears about NT offspring?

[r3dh3d]

I've just come back from the GPs with DD2. Ostensibly, I went to talk to her about DD2's reflux. Actually, I went to get her to measure DD2's head and examine her fontanelles and tell me if her brain growth was normal. She's 25th centile for head circ and 91st for weight so quite out of proportion and of course DD1 has a brain overgrowth condition, so although an undergrowth condition wouldn't be related - you can't help wondering...

Actually, I've been more than wondering. I've been obsessing about it and waking up at night and catching myself staring at her teensy little head and working myself up to the point where I feel physically sick with fear for her.

Of course the GP looked her over and said she was perfectly fine, please go away.

I was just wondering if this worrying was normal - because it's turned out that pretty much every other piece of loony behaviour of mine has turned out to be a perfectly normal part of the whole SN rollercoaster.

My ds was investigated for first 18 months for possible cerebral palsy. As a side line his head happened to be on 25th centil and weight and length 91st. I obsessed. Mentioned it at every meeting measured in ( inaccurately) all the time ...
My boy is fine no problems at all. His head now looks huge! My newest ds ( ds4 !) has tiny head long body again. try not to worry but i do empathise hth

I think it's fairly normal to worry like this when you have a child with SN - at least I hope it is.

Dd is only 2wks old but I already find myself watching out for signs of autism despite being determined not to.

I think it is almost certainly normal and something I have no doubt that I will do with my dd2 when she arrives! When having a child with SN is a reality for you, of course you are going to be more worried about it.

You are also almost certainly so well informed about all the possible things that could be different that you are bound to pick up on stuff that most parents wouldn't even consider. I think it is probably fair to say that for a lot of parents they might think "oh she's got a small head, I hope she doesn't look funny" but very few would think "she's got a small head, I wonder if that could be an indication of a brain abnormality" IYSWIM!

Re: head size - I was worried about this with dd as she does have quite a little head and microcephaly is a possibility with her syndrome. However when I mentioned it to her Paed he said that she almost certainly had a small head because I do (which is true!).

Basically if her head is growing then I would try not to worry about it.