DH has gone off to see the psych and put her straight

[jenk1]

He is fuming over her "you are stupid" conversation from last Thursday.

Hes going to tell her that her way of "helping" DS is tantamout to bullying and is making him worse and we will not allow it any longer.

He is also going to tell her that we,ve had a 2nd opinion and see what she thinks of that.

Private Psych is backing us all the way, last night DH was emailing him and Psych said "Its like the witch trials you are damned if you do and damned if you dont"
SO DONT.

He is also telling her what she can do with her Parenting course.............................................................................................................................................

Take our names off as we now qualify for the NAS help course and we are doing that instead

Parenting course?

MY @RSE as Jim Royal would say!

hi, just wanted to say good luck. larsxx

Thinking of you and your family Jenk1 you don't need this at the moment.

Bless your DH, and your private psych! I did the NAS Earlybird course, which was really useful, so hope the same applies for the Help course.It's already been useful to you, in getting you away from the other parenting course :)

Good luck

Well, the NHS psych was surprisingly very nice.
AS for the "you are stupid" bit she said - dont take it personally
She nodded when DH told her that the private psych said definately AS and she told DH that when the consultant "specialist" at CAMHS said no to AS she was thrown back and shocked because she was absolutely sure DS was AS.

She said she is on the private psych,s side and that her hands are tied and she cant go against what the other consultant said as she is her senior but that she will work along with our private psych.

She wants me to ring her as she told DH "I really like Jen, i get this feeling that she doesnt trust me anymore and i would hate for her to think that as i really do want to continue working along with your family"
She still recommends that we do her parenting course though because she "knows" DS and he plays us off one against the other

Erm.....what child doesnt play their parents off against the other...if thats the case then every single parent would have to do the parenting course wouldnt they?

I do so agree they all play one of against the other my ds(14nt) always trys it on. I also can remeber doing it when I was a kid.
I really don't understand why you have to go on a parenting course. I have been reading your posts but first time I could really say anything.
Wanted to wish you loads of luck

I don't know all the story Jen, but it sounds as if you have been having a rough time.

I must confess that I went on a parenting course run by a local playgroup when dd was little. I found it quite interesting, if I am honest, and nice to be able to discuss parenting issues away from the immediacy of working with the kids (IYSWIM). It was sort of like MN but face to face, people just put forward ideas and we discussed things. It wasn't a 'You must do this' sort of a thing. I enjoyed it, it last about 8 weeks, an hour a week.

Its not the parenting course that i really take issue with, its the fact that DS is SN and we need a parenting course that is adapted to reflect this and we were not getting this.

You cant apply normal disclipne procedures to a SN child especially one who is ASD, it just wont work, and believe me ive tried it, ive tried the "be more firm" that results in screaming tantrums "ignore the bad behaviour, praise the good" that results in more bad behaviour and less good and "what that child needs is a firm hand" which has resulted in yet more screaming tantrums,bad behaviour etc etc.

We are just hoping that the NAS course will help us cope with DS and ASD.

I know I am most likely asking a question that you have been asked before but do you have a sw. Mine is really good at helping sort things out.

no, but i need to get one!!