Anyone else with sn children breathe a sigh of relief when it's the holiday?

[Blossomhill]

Have had the month from hell with dd at school. Am so, so happy that she has broken up as she has been so stressed and is easier to deal with when not at school.

Anyone elses child harder to deal with when at school? I am thinking it's the stress of conforming all day.

The way I feel at the moment I am either looking for a new school or home educating :(

I'm dreading the holidays but at the same time I think that ds1 seriously needs this break from school. I don't know if it's because he's been unwell, the change in routine lately, or just general end-of-term tiredness but he's been having a tough time dealing with school recently. In a way it's good that the school have seen that his SN aren't really as mild as they may seem but it's not good for ds1. I'm hoping that this break will help him recharge his batteries a bit.

I haven't been on here much lately so have missed any recent threads about your dd, BH. Are the mainstream staff still not giving her proper support?

Hi Coppertop :)

So happy to hear about your beautiful dd :)

So much has happened but I am tending not to post too much as wary about who might read it iykwim

Basically though dd has been pulled from all ms lessons as she is on the verge of cracking up!

Oh no! No wonder you're looking forward to the holidays. :(

Hi blossomhill, yes do know what you mean about the school holidays, but a new school for ds has proved to be the best thing for me. Really has made a big difference to me and ds.

I always found the ds's old school so awful, appear to add to ds's problems. Hope your dd's school is far better with your dd next term. larsxx

lars - the thing is dd's school has a unit for children with speech/language/communication disorders attached. Is the only school in borough right for dd :(
So pleased ds is doing so much better in new school though :)

Blossomhill, As long as the school are supporting you and dd then hopefully things will improve. Sometimes it can be just a dreadful few months. May be they could try alternative strategies if others aren't working?

The main thing is an understanding school in my opinion, makes all the difference. larsxx

Blossomshill,

I have to agree with you! I LOVE the holidays. My ds hates going to school, so for us to have 2 weeks off is bliss! I think for our little ones it is so hard for them sometimes. My ds virtually spends the holidays in his pyjamas as he hates getting dressed! So every day, if we are not going out, is a pyjama day.

This is my own personal opinion just from what we have experienced, is that no matter how horrible it is, try and stick with the mainstream schooling. Home educating, which I have seriously considered, would be great apart from the social/communciation side with other children. We want our little ones to intergrate as much as they can into society as they get older and if they don't learn how to get along/interact with other on a daily basis, be it good or bad, they may be at a disadvantage. Each child is different I know but I am thinking of the long term here. It hurts me very much sometimes to send him to school. If it is, and it sounds as if it is, very stressful for her and you, then I would consider a new school. We did and the new school (now 2 years old) is so much better than the old one!

I can give you the experience of the "other side" BH, -home educating.
DS has been home edded since Nov 05 and the change in him is remarkable, hes gone from being anxious,stressed,crying,tantrums to this happy boy who is oozing with confidence, at ease both with adults and children(apart from when playing football of course!), he,s calmed down with his obsessions,rigid routines, i can even get him to eat some fruit now!!!
I dont believe that home education means that children miss out on socialisation at all, school is the only time they are put in a room full of children their own age and all expected to get on.
When kids leave school and go to work, they have to integrate with people of all ages.
Ooops ...rambling, must stop!!

HTH

i love the school holidays as i love my kids at home with me,i have one dd who loves the and a ds who absolutely hates it,i can sympathise with him as i hated it,they say its the best years of your life but it certainly wasnt for me

I'm partly with you too BH. My ds hates school too and is also extra stressed in term time, i'm torn between this and my only break I get!! I wish there was a feasible answer to it. I think my ds would really benefit from really small classes (he hates crowds/lots of noise) but I don't know how less stressed he'd be for that.

I'm so sorry about everything BH x

BH - nothing helpful to add but just wanted to say that I am sorry you are going through a tough time with your dd at the moment, and I really hope it works itself out.

Thanks everyone for all your lovely, supportive messages.
Things have been extremely tough atm and when I spoke to EP yesterday I said that if dd is the same next term then I will take her out of school. There is no way I ever want to see her in the state she was last term. State really does sum up how she was on a few occassions when I picked her up :(

Lots of people are involved and hopefully a proper dx is also coming soon so fingers crossed things will improve xxx