i have been agonising over my daughter since she was 8 months old. she's now 3 and i'm none the wiser. she has been seen by professionals when she was 2 and we were told she was severely delayed in speech and language but nothing else. at present she is tip-toeing, lining things up, hates the hoover noise, sometimes repeats what is said to her and often when excited repeats the same question in a short period of time. i am well read on ASD and believe she is on the spectrum. however, no1 else sees what i see. my wife believes she is a normal child and most consultants would say we r all autistic in some way. plus being a girl makes it even harder to see because she is social and affectionate. there are many mums and dads who believed their children showed autistic traits at a young age but somehow grew out of them, if u can, since there is no cure or is it they were able to cope and hence didn't stand out? she has started nursery and i'm fearful of the dreaded measles. there r outbreaks in the uk and europe and she hasn't been vaccinated yet. my wife insists she should have it, even has a single jab but my heart says no. i know the government's stance is clear, that the MMR doesn't cause autism but in my child's case she has autistic traits and would the jab (even as a single vaccine) do more harm??? and there are consultants out there that would say that is a real possibility. there is research to suggest that the measles virus is present in the guts of autistic children, the same strain as the vaccine, hence more research is needed to conclude the outcome. i've struggled endlessly with the decision to have/have not the jab and now it's causing an immense strain on my marriage. i hope this makes sense, it's late. please if there is any1 out there that can help.....pls. respond.