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DS really frightened me last night

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jenk1 · 30/03/2006 09:58

He has been crying and being aggresive all week since the psych came round last week to talk to him and tell him that he would be integrated back into school.

Last night he had the mother of all meltdowns, aggressive, screaming, running down the street crying, telling me that he hates me that im a moron, an idiot, i had to resort to locking myself in my bedroom while he tried to kick the door in, in the end the only way i got him to stop (and i hate myself for doing this) was to tell him that i would have to call the police.

I emailed the private psych last night and he said Stop these sessions that the clinical psych is having, they are doing him no good,(he soils himself before sessions and after them is really agressive) and tell her that you wont be bringing him for a while as he is too distressed.

DH is going to ring her this morning as i seem to annoy her because i answer her back!!!

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 30/03/2006 10:00

You answer back, the cheek of you, imagine having an opinion on your child.

I know nothing about SN, but it does sound as though he is not getting anything from them.

twokids · 30/03/2006 11:12

sorry things are bad. At least the private man seems to know what to do. Hope it all gets better soon

Feistybird · 30/03/2006 11:27

jenk, I've read this twice and am struggling to know what to say. My heart goes out to you - how on earth do you cope?? Do you get any help?

coppertop · 30/03/2006 11:35

Oh Jenk :(

I think the private Psych is right. Poor ds. :(

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jenk1 · 30/03/2006 11:49

Feisty-last night my brother took DS to his house and he stayed over, DS loves my DB he is his hero!!!

My brother is brill with him, i can ring him up and say im struggling and he will come round and take him out or have him over, its the break that we all needed from each other, he,s just burst through the door and he,s in a good mood
Also, my aunty and uncle take him out for the day when the schools are on holiday as she,s a teacher.

Im not being bullied by this psych any more, she has done nothing but upset DS, private psych said to us last night "all the psych is offering is another stick to beat him with, STOP the sessions straightaway".
Thank goodness we have him on our side and IPSEA of course, and we are going to get back in touch with the solicitor as we are sick of playing silly beggars, thanks for all your support on here dont think i would have coped without MN.

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Cristina7 · 30/03/2006 12:03

Your brother sounds fantastic, JenK. It must mean so much to you having family that can help and you can trust.

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jenk1 · 30/03/2006 12:49

You are not going to believe this, DH has just got off the phone to clinical psych.
He told her that he would like for DS to have a break from these sessions as they are proving too stressful for him, psych said "Well he was allright when i saw him last week"
"I think you are being stupid if you cancel sessions, i want you to bring him to see me on Mon," DH said no, she said "i need to see him so that i can get him ready for going to school, he needs these sessions, if he doesnt come any more then i cant help you and its down to your parenting and it will be you versus the LEA"

All she does is talk to him about school, he sits there saying no no no im not going back and she is trying to resort to bullying tactics.
Have just emailed the private psych and am waiting on his reply.

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MeerkatsUnite · 30/03/2006 13:04

Jenk,

(((((((((((((((jenk))))))))))))))

So sorry to read its like this.

Hope you get an answer back from private pysch soon. Can you phone him?.

Clinical pysch is clearly doing more harm than good. Her dogmatic, bullying approach is not helping anyone least of all your son.

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jenk1 · 30/03/2006 15:36

im getting really angry who,s she to call DH stupid?

Oooh i think a letter of complaint is in order, i cant believe the cheek of this woman GRRRR

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eefs · 30/03/2006 15:40

Definately complain

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jenk1 · 30/03/2006 22:12

Private psych says she a bully,rude,unsympathetic and unprofessional and to make a formal complaint about her as theres nothing she can do.

Went to a parental support group tonight, it was really good,most mums there have kids with ASD and one of them has even had the same trouble with the clinical psych as us so that has reassured me that its nothing that we have done.

Dont know whether to make a formal complaint or not though.

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busybusybee · 30/03/2006 22:16

Jenk - this is awful for you and your ds
I think you should deffo write a letter of complaint - No professional should be allowed to speak to clients like that or make them feel so bad

I hope you get some proper help soon - Your ds obviously needs support and not from this horrid woman.

coppertop · 31/03/2006 10:40

Bl**dy hell! Definitely complain if you've got the energy.

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jenk1 · 31/03/2006 12:07

DH wants to complain, this will be the 3rd "professionals" services we have dispensed with though

Think we are starting to get a name in our LEA, our private psych said to us last night "So another professional has bitten your dust-THEIR FAULT,NOT YOURS"

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emmalou78 · 31/03/2006 12:21

Jenk
complain! theres NO WAY she should get away with talking to you like that, and why is she sytill insisting its al down to your parenting? she'll concede he has ASD traits but still droans on about parenting, one of the first things I was told was nothing I had done was causing my sons problems...

stupid woman.

hope next time she ring someone they call her stupid, see how she likes it.

take care, and keep strong.

emma x

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