DDs funding was agreed she goes in on Monday :) :(

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just got phone call and they said her funding for the rehab has been accepted. She has a choice of tomorrow or Monday. I said Monday to give is chance to pack and prepare.

I have to tell her now oh boy I don't know wether to smile or cry...

We have tried to stick to structured meal times here maria. Having the DC young has helped as DD feels she has to make an effort at the table so to speak.

Her control methods to block out trauma/issues are eating/drinking/cocaine (food suppressant so the hunger doesnt make her cave in) So yes it is a form of addiction. Control is her addiction iyswim. If she cant do one then she impusively reaches out for another method of harm. At least that is what she has been doing.

I think I am going to get onto the place tomorrow with some sort of idea like you have suggested. Difficult thing is I obviously cannot discuss these other peoples eating issues and nor can DD till she is in there as what is inside stays inside. We can though ask the dietician to advise them on the type of support she needs.

However if she is assigned a buddy to support and then in turn support each other I said to her perhaps you can state with the drink and drugs gone the only addiction I have left is starvation so I need your support to bang my door and help me stick to a food plan?

She is being honest in saying she wants to succeed but honest enough to say where she is likely to fail because that is the one sparsely covered.

Meals are not allowed to be eaten in the rooms it is always downstairs and social so that is something as she cant hide the fact that she hasnt eaten. But she has to prepare the food at breakfast and lunch herself and sometimes the very part of picking up a knife to cut some food is repulsive when she is low. That is where she needs support too.

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Great news about this place. It sounds good and hopefully they will be flexible enough to put a plan about lunch and breakfast in place.

Ds was in hospital for months and though hard, seeing the improvement was well worth it. He had a birthday there and actually coped OK though he was well enough to come home for Christmas. I think most places facilitate home visits for Christmas if at all possible.

Ds was the youngest in his unit and that was to his advantage as the others took a big brother/ sister attitude to him.

I know your Dd is much older and her issues are very different so please ignore the above ramblings if they aren't helpful.

Good luck to you all.

such good news...and this placement sounds very very good too. A huge step for your DD but I'm sure she will cross the threshold on Monday and find great comfort in knowing she is taking this step towards having control of her life back in positive ways, with great light at the end of her tunnel.

Really happy news for you all....grab it with both hands

I was at uni with someone whose mum came from overseas and stocked up the kitchen with a planned regime of 3 meals a day for a term. She spent a week cooking, and bought an extra freezer to keep it all in! I ate quite a lot of it and my housemate had too much McD and pizza instead

Cereal frozen meals Prescription meal replacementcheaper ones to buy

Coff, I am so glad your dd is finally going to get the support she needs.

Well done once again for being such an amazing mum and fighting to get your dc's needs met.

Hope three months flies by quickly.