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one of those things we just have to suck up - self-pity alert

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UnChartered · 17/10/2012 17:06

just had a flying visit from my Dsis and her DCs (pre-schoolers)

they are gorgeous - i love them all but Dsis has just broken my heart

feel free to tell me to grow the fuck up but i'm hurting and i hope you'll have a semblance of sympathy for me....

was telling Dsis how we were actually planning a whole weeks holiday next year - something we'd never contemplated before as it's been too 'big' for us to plan with DD (ASD and huge sensory issues) and was expecting her to be reasonably happy for us.

what i didn't expect was to be told that our parents had asked her (Dsis and her family) if they'd like to all go on holiday together next year, as they miss seeing the youngsters play and laugh together.

that cuts me to the fucking bone - ok, i know DD finds social situations difficult but we live in the same fucking town. a few months ago DM made some pathetic show of trying to get to know DD by spending a half an hour a week with us, but that's fallen by the wayside, DM is too busy.

our DCs are all under 6yrs old

they've never as much as suggested we go on a fucking picnic together never mind a whole holiday.

you don't have to answer this, i'm fully aware it reads quite pathetic, but i had to get it out somewhere.

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SilkStalkings · 17/10/2012 21:48

What she saidGrin

DameMargotFountain · 17/10/2012 22:00

just airing my new name, OP here

it's really sad reading this thread.

thanks for being here, for us all. my online family

Thanks
Triggles · 17/10/2012 22:26

So sorry you're having to deal with that... I agree, wine is called for here. Grin

My family is abroad - easier to cope with an ocean away. And DH's mother is lovely, if still a bit confused on all the SNs stuff. My SIL is a nasty cow and manages to get little digs and such in using "feigned sympathy" because (according to her) "we all know how difficult it is with DS2." As if she has a clue, the self-righteous .. well, I can't think of any supremely satisfying words to call her right now...

hope you're feeling a bit better this evening...

coff33pot · 18/10/2012 11:31

No wonder you are upset your DSis has just thrown a brick at you x

I had in laws like that. Note I said had. They are still around but I haven't seen them since Xmas and we are approaching the next. Tbh I have has a better year this year not bothering to try and make them include ds or eldest dd in anything. They don't even know dd is ill and still haven't spoken since ds got his DX. It's peaceful :)

Go on a holiday yourselves and have a fab time of it. The only ones that count in your life are your DH and DCs and everyone outside that bubble Can keep their selfish ways to themselves it isn't worthy the energy getting upset about x

Firsttimer7259 · 18/10/2012 12:11

You arent being self-pitying. Thye are being crappy and cruel. You can say one thing about SN - it weeds out the useless people in your life faster than you can count them

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