Fed up of mindfuck LA, self-serving meetings, professional liars

[donburi]

Just venting. There is this march in London on Saturday all about saving local jobs in the public sector. As the child of socialist parents, I can't believe that I am thinking along the lines of: 'Sack 'em all, they have fucked around with my ASD child, my family life, my finances - I cannot recall a single, positive moment since DS' birth when I have felt proud or grateful in relation to my LA.

The woolly statement I now have in my hand has hardly redeemed them. When I was struggling to pay for private interventions, they accused me of pushing out their crap services and that it was a child protection issue. Now that I am asking them to put their money where their mouth is, all of a sudden, the bank is closed, DS is 'making progress' (obv untrue). Their corrupt mindfuck is all about communicating that they are right either way and all of the time.

They turned up to my sons paed appointment in force citing CAF even though I never invited them, making their little notes to help them gain an advantage over me if it goes to tribunal.

They have magicked up this appointment with ASD outreach which they could have done years ago when he was a lot more severe if it was out of genuine concern for him rather than lining up potential tribunal witnesses.

I do not think they can be out-crapped at LA level and I really wish they knew how little faith we have in them and how goddam awful they really are.

I agree with moondog Agnes.

If you can't come and vent here, where can you? This is the one place we can say it exactly how we feel it without fear of judgement. I personally don't want that to change, as it's one of the things about MNSN that makes it special - people understand and don't judge.

We celebrate the kind of successes that parents of nt children would probably never understand and support each other when things have gone wrong, we have been let down by someone or things have gone horribly wrong.

We may not always agree with each other, but we don't judge and we do support and if we start trying to censor each other and put caveats on what we are and aren't allowed to say it would, imho, fundamentally change the nature of the forum.

Yes but i sort of agree with Hothead there is venting and VENTING! And I did venture into the latter.
I was not saying the whole system is the way I described btw, just that i have been at the sharp end of a very sinister culture in my LA that does really worry me.
I have come across attitudes I find really disturbing.
I have to say that people in other LAs are equally disturbed by stories here, we are sort of known for being in the dark ages.
TBH I sort of know where Hothead is coming from, I do know my feelings about particular members of staff in my LA are unhealthy!
I was never a bitter person before all this.
Some LAs do just make it very very nasty and very very personal.
Very deliberate decisions were made knowing they would damage my DS. Ours was not a case where there was just a difference of views, they very deliberately went against / hid and fabricated evidence and I don't think the people who did that are fit to work with disabled children.

Right then and all round.

Agnes has explained her use of the analogy.

She is not someone to overstate or say things without a lot of careful thought.

End of as far as I'm concerned. I've had far worse things said about me by schools and the LA.

Agnes, IE and anyone else

can you please have a look at my thread, if you have the time, im desperate, feel like im going mad.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/1590374-I-have-had-the-day-from-hell

Sorry for hijack