And apart from the numb, raw feeling I have, even though it was completely expected, the way in which it was delivered has left me and DP a bit bewildered.
Will try to keep it short; last summer, after concerns were raised by school, we sought out help and eventually got a diagnosis of dyspraxia, low muscle tone and hypermobility from CP, who referred us to OT and pyhsio. The community paed at the time (last Nov) also said she suspected ASD (Aspergers) but that CAHMS would have to assess and diagnose, especially as DS scored 31 on his CAST test. We went to CAMHS eventually, after a lot of chasing up by myself, only to be told they now had a limited budget and didn't diagnose ASD anymore, but would refer us back to the CDC, but in the meantime would speak to school and visit DS in school for an observational assessment, but kept hammering the point home they wouldn't be able to 'diagnose'. School got EP on board who did a full and comprehensive assessment, who again detailed DS's 'autistic traits' but said she wasn't qualified to diagnose.
So the waiting game continued; I rang the CDC a few times asking if CAMHS had bounced the referral back; eventually a consultant rang from the CDC to say DS hadn't been forgotten and she'd see him in clinic ASAP (today's date).
So I turned up today and she was basically waiting for us with a diagnosis (despite never meeting DS); apparently she'd had a MDT in September with CAMHS and had read the various reports and they'd all agreed DS has ASD.
Now I don't doubt the diagnosis for a minute, we've suspected it for years but a) it still hurts to have it confirmed and b) I feel that in such a sea of mis-communication and uncertainty for over 18 months, it seems odd that they had an MDT and made a diagnosis without telling me or even school?
Sorry for the rambling post - not sure why I've even posted as we've fought long and hard for diagnosis, but the way she was waiting today to deliver the diagnosis without ever having met DS made the morning feel quite surreal!
We just seem to have gone round the houses for 18 months with no one prepared to diagnose, despite what they 'suspected', yet this Dr who had never clapped eyes on DS was ready and waiting to hand us the diagnosis...
I'm being pathetic, I know
but it did seem really bizarre today!