Really Really need some advice dont know what to do.

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I have posted on here a few times about ds, perfect at school (or so school said) and nightmare at home. Today someone put a pile of letters and documents through my door that were over 2 years worth of school concerns about my son that said my ds needs help and has major anger problems so on so on. To my face the school have always said he is no problem and told CAMHS the same. What do i do with these letters? who do i show? i have known for years the school was lying now what do i do? Thank you to anyone who has advice.

Still thinking about this. The element of collusion among staff is beyond belief. Ther is a childens legal centre that might help www.childrenslegalcentre.com/ free legal advice. Call them.

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They stick other children's work in your child's workbook?

Holy God.

I'm sorry you have to deal with all this when obviously you should be free to put your energies into helping your son. Whose school should be supporting him. And instead they have actively put obstacles in the way of him getting appropriate help. There is a larger issue here, that the people who you have entrusted your child's education to are actively deceiving you to prevent him getting access to resources. What kind of impact do they think that will have longterm on your child and his future?

i hope now that you have backup you can get the right help for him. The result of the CAMHS assessment becomes fairly invalid when one of their major (& supposedly objective) sources of information for the assessment turns out to have actively given false information. That is quite unbelievable.

Astounded to hear this!...truly shocked and horrified...you need legal advice and fast...
I hope you find your anonymous good hearted soul who has given you this evidence....thank god for this person on your right side.

You must be feeling so many emotions right now over this (((((hugs)))))

All strength to you and yours to take this forward.....make sure not to do anything in haste though...gather your ammo, plan your best route and then march onwards into battle

Thank you all so much. Cannot belive what has happened, its a tiny village school he goes to, i have had enough. Thank you all for the advice xx

Just checked back in on this one and can't believe how bad it is - faked work book, outright lies - really, really shocking and depressing.
Wish I had some advice that could help but only just starting out myself and clueless.

Good luck OP.

The workbooks: they'll say it's a mistake.

The books just got mixed up. We're so sorry it confused you. you know, that's why we don't like people taking them home, it causes us to make mistakes like this. No idea where your child's books are, someone else must have taken them by mistake.

Oh, so many kids, so much work, so many workbooks and stickers, they all look the same to me, and these days the double-barrelled names are so confusing. Mini-onward must have stuck the wrong sticker on himself...

Tomorrow morning. Three phone calls.

Ofsted first. Councillor second. Social services third (get your call in before they do). CAMHS fourth. And if you have any idea who might have done the wikileak, ask them if they're in a union and suggest they call them sos.

when I had grave concern and a serious lack of support for my DS in 1 of his schools...I sent a lengthy email to the ed department of my local authority...they immediately conducted a spot check on the issues I'd raised....it made a huge difference, even though I pulled my son out of the school afterwards...

You could raise your concerns this way...they have a duty of care to monitor and take action on any whistle blowing/serious allegations such as this is. You could request a private meeting to take your evidence with you, etc and discuss these workbooks too....I wouldn't return them without these being witnessed and recorded by someone who can help you.

Have done some ringing round. Spoke to a mental health specialist today who said this might change the outcome for my son now we have a different view of him in school. I think he has early onset bipolar and aspergers, private pead doc thinks so to, camhs holding out, we have been at camhs for 2 years now with no diagnosis and they took schools word as gospel. Think i know who has done this dont want to ask in case i am wrong. Add to that my lovely neighbour called my son a retard tonight as he was on the trampoline with his michael jackson outfit on (ds loves michael jackson and prefers to be called michael) saying "fuck" over and over and over again to himself, so fed up and feeling all is against us.

who were these letters to and from though? Has it been 1 specific person in school but school have withheld them all or something?
Where have these documents been do you think...in HT desk drawer or something?
This good soul has taken a huge risk in taking these documents and getting them to you...I just wonder who generated them in the first place, etc?...you need to locate this person and make contact to investigate and gain them as a witness for you.
This has to be legally investigated...be careful who you share this knowledge with at the moment, just be very sure about their possible remit and arse covering abilities, iykwim...(even friends, I hate to say it)

Your poor DS and amazing that his capacity to have braved this environment for so long and things beginning to make so much more sense for you suddenly in this way too.

I'd be phoning in to excuse him from attending...just say he's ill with a horrible bug...it would give you all breathing space and time to work out your plans. I can't imagine how hard this must be to try to continue as though nothing is wrong and keep sending him into school ....((((hugs)))) for you all xx

Thank you, letters were to HT from a senco saying there was concerns, letter from HT to educational physc saying my ds has nothing wrong and its a parenting problem! A copy of an unsent email about my ds not speaking in school, and to top it all a copy of a letter sent to all staff saying a camhs visit was expected and the ht would be sitting in on ds class when that happened to keep a eye on things, heres the icing on the cake the ht was asked why she thinks my ds melts down on dress up days and her reply was "because he thinks his costume is not good enough". Last year my son messed every where in the class and spread it round the class room, the school sent me a letter saying what had happened and sent it home with another parent(by mistake) next day all i got was dirty looks in playground from several mums and no one has invited my ds over since, i am not welcome at coffee mornings and no one came to my ds birthday party, my heart breaks for him. Think its time to cut and run from this school.

Look, despite all our whining on here, there are lots of good schools around. Not perfect, short on resources, burned out staff who hate paperwork, but nevertheless quite fond of kids and quite keen for them to learn something. And even the bad ones are mostly not this bad.

I would be most tempted by whichever school is just into the next county.

Phoned round a few schools today after telling them about ds they had no places. Our local school is to big for him to cope with. Have camhs in morning so will see what they say.

I hope the CAMHS people listen and can DO something constructive to really help you and DS....
Get onto the Ed Psych...they need to take charge of this situation with the current school and maybe you need to be discussing appropriate provision elsewhere with Ed Psych....this is who can get the ball moving best I think.