"Mummy"...."Mummy"......"Mummy" - how do you cope with constant name calling?

[Thomcat]

Not even sure if it's worth posting about this.......time will tell.

I have shingles, I'm home alone as D is in Buenos Aires, demand breastfeeding a 12week old who is waking throughout night, so I'm tired and a bit tetchy.

Lottie is obviously behind with speech and language and also obviously wants my attention, a lot. But I'm finding it so hard to cope with her constantly saying "mummy" over and over, and over, again.

I respond with a 'yes' but all she really wants is my constant attention. It's not possible. I just want to scream "shut up" at her sometimes. I'll be sat there feeding little un and Lotbags will sit there saying "mummy, mummy, mummy"

I just don't know how to make it stop.

I try and give her as much attention as poss but I have to other things inbetween and I'm so tired, and ohhhhhhhhhhh, I don't know what I'm asking here.

Maybe I just needed to say all this out loud?

ah TC, I sympathise with you. Its bloody hard work- my Dp has been away for 4 days in dubai- all I have heard from 5.30 am each morning is " mummy- i need juice" -- "Mummy i need toilet " "mummy ineed....."

AARRGGH!!!!!

have any of your mates been around to help out? you sound as if you need total respite from it all- especially with the shingles.

sending you hugs xxx ( what did you call little un by the way??)

Yeah, will have a break tomorrow actually.
It was just such a struggle to keep my patience tonight and I feel worn out and would love to have a soak in the bath, my leg is really itchy and painful, but although DD1 is asleep DD2 will need feeding on and off for pretty much the rest of the evening. Ahhhhhhh well, it could all be worse.

Your right Fio, I should just switch it to off. I feel I need to answer her all the time at the moment, maybe I should just ... well ignore her really? It's hard though isn't it.

12 weeks is just about where I started to feel like I wanted to kill someone (DH) with baby number 2. Doing the sleepless nights for the first month or two is okay, but by month 3...ahhh!! Hopefully littl'un should start sleeping through a bit more soon. Feel for you. DS2 is now 7 months and I'm just coming out of the dark sleep deprived tunnel!

Will Lottie watch the tv or listen to a story tape? You could still sit alongside her when breastfeeding but it might distract her a bit. I used to feel guilty that Ds1 watched a lot of tv when I was breastfeeding Ds2 but in reality it is only for a few weeks and it might take the strain off while your dh is away.

ds1 really stuggled when ds2 came along. There was't much I could do about it apart from hang in there, it did get better. I tried reading with him etc whilst feeding but he just threw the books across the room and refused to have anything to do woth me. He was much better with ds3- a couple of weeks of sleeping problems.

Get as much help in as you can, children with SN do need far more 1:1 and so do babies. Help makes all the difference.

Hi TC. Sorry to hear you've got the dreaded shingles - it's lousy so no wonder you're feeling so stressed. And that's before the other stuff...

Can't think of anything practical to suggest, other than getting some time to yourself if you can (but I know how hard that can be) or at least sharing some quality time with Lottie. TBH I don't think you'll feel much better about this till you're over the shingles. But don't rush it, you could end up making yourself worse.

FWIW J also shouts 'Mam' all the time. DH reckons it's like a sonar homing device, just to check where I am, so whenever he shouts I respond 'Beep!'. It doesn't solve the problem but makes me smile instead of getting ratty.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Feels better just to know I'm not alone, which I know I'm not but helps to read your posts, thanks all.

I know how you feel. The constant 'mummy' demands can be so wearing. Some days you cope better than others.

Hope you have a nice break today TC.