Firstly sorry if i've posted in the wrong section folks,really wasn't sure where this post belongs.
Just wondering if any of you have had or are having the same problem.
My DS is 8 years old. And yesterday his teacher wanted to speak to me about how quiet he is.She said he won't talk & sits there most of the time with a blank,emotionless look on his face which she finds uncomfortable.She said she doesn't know what to do with him,and could i take him to see his GP.
She said it frustrates her as he won't answer when spoken to,and doesn't seem a very happy little boy.But when she sees him out in the playground hes chatting away to his mates and mucking around like normal.
He's always been painfully shy,very bad with eye contact when speaking to people,& in general doesn't enjoy socializing.However that seems to be slowly improving with age. You can see in many situations hes very anxious,and sometimes a bit panicky.He starts chewing his lip,and' looking away from whoever is talking to him,and they end up with no answer.This has been a problem throughout his school years,after a few weeks in the teacher takes me aside to tell me he won't communicate with them,seems to be fine with the children though.
As soon as we get out of the school gates hes chatting away to me about his day,and off he goes,you can't stop him talking!
The behaviour which does worry me though, is if we have people round he will more than likely go to his room until they have gone,sometimes might venture out if he feels brave enough.If a pupil from school waves or shouts hi in the street or out if we see them in town,he will blank them as though he hasnt heard them.Although again this is slowly getting better,he waved to a boy this morning and shouted hi back to another the other day,we we seem to be improving there.Also he's very particular in the way that everything has its place.I tried to help tidy his room last week and i stood on a piece of lego,so i picked it up and put it back in the box,and next thing you know hes finding the very same piece to put back where it was! Its like this with anything in our home.I was having a move about once in our lounge,and sure enough i caught him moving things back to where they were and getting very distressed if i wouldn't let them stay there.To me this is not normal and shouldn't be worrying him at all.
We have also had a chat about manners,and that we should'nt be rude to other people,always polite etc..And always been brought up like that as have i as a child.
We are off to the GP next week to have a chat,i know hes not going to like that,but i want to try nip all this in the bud now,so he doesn't struggle anymore or when he's older.
Anybody have any advice or experience on this,would be so grateful.
Sorry its long & thanks for reading.x