I have one DS with a diagnosis of HFA and another DS and DD who are undergoing assessment for ASD - presumably again of the HFA variety. DS1 has had CBT intervention from CAMHS - even they acknowledged it was unsuccessful. DS2 also had a short course of CBT for anxiety issues - also unsuccessful. DD has selective mutism so they haven't tried CBT with her! Appointment for DS2 last week at CAMHS - the usual long and involved family history was taken. Then surprise - enter a family therapist and the proposal that since 3 of my children have anxiety issues, and the lack of success of CBT, we should have family therapy. My gut feeling was 'no way!' The idea was put across by the family therapist that as parents maybe we weren't able to deal effectively with our children's anxiety, as we were unable to challenge them to work through their fears. All seems too simplistic to me and doesn't seem to recognise the complexities of ASD. But I don't know if I am just being prickly about the idea of having my parenting skills examined...
Any wise words on this one fellow Special Needs Mumsnetters?