I was just thinking about this in relation to ds2 who has Asperger's (10). To some extent we have always done the lovebombing technique with him from the time he was a small child.
A lot of people have told us we spoil him, as a result! And that his inability to fit in is due to thinking he will always have his own way! So you can't win.
I believe deep down that ds2 as higher self esteem, better relationships, better behaviour, DESPITE his ASD, because we gave him such much special attention.
Once you have established that, you can move on to "letting go" and teaching them to be more selfreliant, but not till then.
I think what is interesting about it is that all the parenting books talk about involvement, listening, empathising, postivitity, but it is quite a test to just spend 24 hours with your child and completely concentrate on them. I think most of us would assume that children don't want that sort of suffocating focus for so long, or supervising and directing them all the tme (whch of course is suffocating) So it is sounds easy but it is really isn't, and it can teach us quite a few lessons about how we really do relate to our children.
Often we think we are paying attention to children we are in fact, Directing, Organising, Telling, Stopping, Chivvying. Perhaps that is what we think the "good parent" really does. Not to speak all the work we do on behalf of our children, work they probably don't appreciate. By the time you have cooked a meal, washed up, done laundry, tidied up, you feel you have given them attention, even you haven't.
Reading Jacqueline Wilson 
I'm often struck by the way that inattentive bad parents not only fail on the physical side of caring for the kids, but they are sometimes emotionally absent too. I'm thinking of Lily Alone and the other one about the mum with bi-polar disorder