Although DS has informal diagnosis of ASD, his formal diagnosis will not come through until after the statement is finalised. I know that you do not need a diagnosis for a statement, what is the statement really worth when the level of knowledge surrounding ASD among the professionals is woefully low and they are wrongly attributing symptoms to behavioural/emotional and incorrectly basing the statement on this instead?
When we originally discussed statement, the school identified learning diffs and speech as being the main areas of concern as this has been their opinion for years. As I am currently sorting out access and custody with exH, they have suddenly sent through a proposed statement which prioritises behavioural /emotional and works the statement around this.
I feel that this is very unfair as DS has never been seen by a behavioural psychologist or CAHMS and is a happy child who would surely be faring a whole lot worse to be categorised like this. A lot of what they are suddenly claiming as problems is basically ASD related. Also, I have taken great pains to emphasise that the relationship with exH was not full of rage and conflict as he would have them believe in order to 'score points' and any issues were mainly just about his own inability to control his temper. If DS is displaying any anxiety it is because they are forcing him into direct contact with exH against his will (at the end of the marriage there was a short period when exH turned on DS well beyond the boundries of normal discipline which led to the demise of the marriage). Not sure how to approach this?