Yes it was a very roundabout 3 hours of getting to what should be a very common sense place. I think that the problem as they see it, is that they have found it very difficult to assess what ds actually needs, because for a long time he wouldn't play, or look at them or let them touch him (this has improved). Our point was that it is their job to find a way (as nursery and portage have done), and that their enlightened 'leave him lying in a pool of snot to scream' approach, was not going to help them assess him in any way!!
I am so cross that I was pointing things out about ds - he doesn't like to be touched softly, he hates touching certain foods and reacts badly to certain noises, he licks walls etc, and for the ot to say, 'oh it seems as though there may be some sensory issues going on, we should investigate that' ...... no shit sherlock.
We have a meeting in January with the developmental paed, SALT etc about getting a statement in place ready for pre school in Sept (he is 2.2). Once he is there the physio and ot will be able to assess him there, because it is within their trust, but then we will have the situation that the SALT he is under now won't be able to because he will be in a different trust (head explodes at fucking stupidity of it all!)
I think I am going to have to be his lead professional, because ds's is useless (hence above situation!) and because I have left 3 phone messages for her in the last week and so far I have heard bubkiss.
I said to them yesterday how hard this all is. When you find out your child has sn, they show you all this support, then make it impossible, or at the least bloody difficult to access, in the meantime there is ds, who is just being a 2 year old boy and me, me who doesn't know the language, or the rules or the system, and is terrified for their child, and has to find a way to navigate a way through it all. I swear I have had more help from the lovely geese on here than I have from anyone in rl.
Thankyou.