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Glitter1974 · 09/09/2012 00:03

New to this but getting fed up of getting owhere with my son.

He is 8 and a half and had a very traumatic start in life... I underwent several amino drainages whilst pregnant to try to or react twins-to-twin transfusion syndrome and finally laser surgery on the placenta. My boys were delivered by emergency section at 32 weeks. Son 1 had a deformed and undeveloped leg which was amputated the following day but otherwise was not too poorly at 4lb 4. My second son was only 2lb 12 and was incredibly ill. We let him when he was only four days old.

After several weeks in hospital we brought son 1 home and he now uses a prosthetic limb to walk and get about. My main concerns though lie with his behaviour rather than his physical abilities. He is a very sensitive child and can be very loving and caring but he thinks nothing of hurting his younger brother who is 6 if he is annoyed with him, kicking him, slapping him and biting him over often very trivial arguments. He can be very immature and enjoys playing babyish games and being treated like a baby. He can also be very unreasonable and has severe aggressive outbursts, again often over trivial matters. During these outbursts it is not unusual for him to be violent towards me and to kick and punch walls and doors as well as throw things.

He is seeing a phychotherapist but I get little feedback from him... He hates school, reading, homework erc... He is so uncooperative at times it drives me mad and he will argue over silly things. Often when out shopping he will mess about with his brother, screaming and running in the aisles like a 2 year old!

This all sounds so negative and he can be very loving, especially to his sister who is 7 months old. He is often very affectionate to people he barely knows and this really hurst as he seems so angry with me at times...

Just to add, he has always been like this. His dad and I separated 3 years ago but he has regular contact with him several times a week.

Any suggestions or advise would be much appreciated!

Thanks

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IndigoBell · 09/09/2012 07:06

There are lots of conditioned that can cause behaviour like you describe.

For example Aspergers or dyspraxia.

It's very common for kids to not be diagnosed, and their behaviour blamed on everything else.

Can you tell us more about him?

What's he like in school?
Does he have many friends? What's he like with them?
What's his fine motor skills like (handwriting, etc)
Does he ever have any bowel problems?
How is he academically?

Glitter1974 · 09/09/2012 08:51

He reall dislikes school. He will call out and be very vocal especially in smaller grous and will be quite disruptive.

He has quite a few friends, his main one being a girl and they get on pretty well. The others are boys and he tends to act th fool with them quite a bit....

His handwriting is pretty bad! He can do it but can be bothered...

When he was youngers - 5 pr 6 he would go through phases of soiling himself but hat has not happened for a while.

He shows little interest academically but can do things if really pushed or if he is working one-to -one.

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IndigoBell · 09/09/2012 20:41

There's certainly quite a few symptoms of Aspergers there.

Why don't you research Aspergers and related conditions and see if you think he might have it.

If you think no way, then great :)

If you think it's a possiblity go to the GP and ask for a referral to a child development paed.

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