Gob smacked by ignorance, what's your worst experience out and about?

[FrustratedSycamorePants]

Oh. I'm so sorry. Hope you've recovered.

Tbh, my worst experiences have always come from professionals.

I'm gobsmacked by it.

For me it was on a flight with almost 2 ds he already had a dx of GDD and on the way to an ASD dx.
Ds was on my lap as under two - during the flight the seatbelt sign came back on due to some mild turbulence - ds was having none of it!!! While I was wresteling with ds to get him back in his belt the steward was not helping at all by lecturing me and ds about how he had to wear the belt (as if I didn;t know, anyone with eyes could see I was trying to comply)- I tried to tell him to leave me to it as he was making matters worse by talking to ds who had special needs but he just kept on and on at both of us. DH who was over the aisle with dd was ready to deck him.

Oh cwitches at least I could escape. That's awful.

I was on a bus with my 2 youngest. One kept reading all the adverts you know about aids, chlamydia and condoms ect loud at the top of his voice - hyperlexic..The other kept tantruming because I wouldn't let him ring the bus bell. Some woman sat next to me and started doing the oh dear you have got your handsful routine then started talking about had I seen supernanny and had I thought about not giving them sweets. I ignored her as best as I could so she started on the children saying hello arem't you clever so one of them piped up why are you so fat your tummys very big. She got off the next stop.

do you think she needed to get of at the next stop.

I'm considering training my nt dd to say "my sibling is autistic, do you know what autism is?" trouble is I don't think it would take much training. She already tells every person she meets that her sibling is autistic. drives me nuts, but could be used as an advantage,

I had an elderly man in morrisons offer to kick ds in the head whilst he was lying on the floor screaming. I had rather foolishly left his wheelchair in the car so he could go in a special trolley but they were all being used.
It was'nt my finest hour but other people were very nice and offered lots of help and restored my faith in human nature -a bit-

OMG that's dreadful 48 tell me you verbally laid into him

Definately frustrated or I would have thrown her off myself!!

mine was when dd went to stay with her dad, (she was over 16 so couldn't stop her) she asked him for a towel as she needed a shower, her dad decided to grab her by the throat and kick and hit her,dd phoned 999 police came and ignored dd as she was in meltdown, police phoned me and told me to come and get dd as they would just throw her in a cell, i explained she has asd and she's been assaulted, the reply from police was oh yes her dad said she was mental, i said no she isn't mental do u know what asd is? policeman replied yes it means she's a mental case. i did go through complaints, was told by a very nice policewoman that asd means dd just needs a good slap and her dad was being a parent by hurting dd, it's called parenting.

"he needs a good smack"

No, no he really doesn't. And not even because it's just not effective as a discipline, but because he doesn't react typically to either threats or actual pain. If threatened, with anything, he will earnestly question you on the precise nature and intent of the threat whilst showing no sign of fear or, indeed, compliance. This is my fault for saying things like "I'll throw you in the bin" or "I shall give you to the scrap man" when he was little.

And with pain, he will latch on like an enraged chimp and apply extreme pressure with his hands, arms and legs. This hurts, as I have found out whilst combing his knotty hair.

So although it doesn't look pretty, it is both kinder and more effective to let him howl it out until he is ready to listen, and this may not be for the rest of the day.

Like I say to interfering passerby .... You only have to walk past, I live with this and I know what I am doing.