What does this mean?

[PrinceRogersNelson]

Hello,
I was wondering if people could help me a bit.

I have a DD who is 3.7. She has a speech delay and it has been suggested she is ASD. I am not sure if she is and we are waiting to see if she will be assessed. But I know that it is more that simply a speech delay and that the way she communicates is different. She doesn't seem to process language well and her 'conversations' are quite odd and repetitive. She gets overwhelmed and she also finds it difficult to concentrate.

Anyway, this morning she had a complete meltdown as she wanted to spend the say with her childminder as opposed to me. She was very upset and it was a pretty stressful morning.

We took my DS to school and we saw some people we knew on the way home and she was happier that we had seen people and it wasn't just us.

As we were walking down the street, she said (in her broken speech way):
DD: been a bit silly
Me: who has darling?
DD: (DD) been silly, crying

I crouched down and gave her a cuddle and told her it was OK and she said 'Sorry Mummy'.

I am not sure why but it felt really significant. That she remembered what had happened, that she expressed something she was feeling and that she said sorry.

Am I being ridiculous to think it is quite good? I probably am aren't I?

I just have no idea what I can expect from her or what anything means.

Thanks

It is really hard to comment as I read a lot into every situation, and that might just be my way of coping. I wanted to reply because I have been there.

The good thing is your DD should be assessed and even with NT children, you have no idea what to expect from them.

My DS2 is ASD (neither low or high functioning), I was told he was mid spectrum?!?

Ah, well, I don't think I've helped at all in replying, but I hope you do ok. There is loads of help available on this board. Keep asking, questioning and pushing.

p.s. you aren't being ridiculous

Thank you for replying. You know even as I was writing it I didn't know why I was. I know no one can tell me what it all means. I guess it was just that I felt she did something she hadn't done before.

And you're right, all children surprise us and we don't know what to expect from any child. Maybe I should stop trying to analyse everything as to whether it means she is more or less likely to get a dx.

Thanks again for replying.

I am glad you read and replied. Sometimes it is just good to get thoughts out.

I analyse everything even though I have a dx. I thought I'd stop doing it when the ASD was DXd. WRONG!

You sound like a lovely caring parent who is trying to make sense of what is going on.

Take care. xx