My DS is 6, just started year 2 today, looked very grown up and happy with himself :D
This might get a bit long and rambly so sorry in advance.
He has had help from early age, portage before he started nursery, the SIPS worker for most of his time at nursery, SALT from 3 with 1 year of intensive language therapy in reception, atm he gets 15 hours 1 to 1 a week, 2 chatter clubs(social skills), a lunch time club(for children who find unstructured time difficult) and until the last few months of year 1 was being sent to the the special unit of his school 1 or 2 afternoons a week, he also has imput from SCDSS because of his poor concentration and his limited empathy and impact of his actions on others.
We are currently in the process of getting a Statement as the scheme he is on atm can't actually afford to fund the amount of extra help he is going to need in the long term(am hoping to up his hours a bit aswell) and just started the on the grinding road to a dx of ASD. Peadiatrician has also mentiond Developement Delay :(
Anyway, DS asked on the way to school today WHY he needs all that extra help when the other children in his school don't. TBH I've never really seen anything that made me realise he was that aware of the extra help he gets and I'm not sure what to tell him apart from he just needs more help than other children which strikes me a bit as avoidance, but I don't want to knock his confidence by saying that he is just not as able as the others, plus it would break my heart to tell him something like that anyway.
Yep, defo bit of a ramble, can't help myslef, but any advice would be helpful, I've not thought about this at all (slacky mummy 
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