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Have binned FB altogether

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Glitterknickaz · 03/09/2012 15:35

Dear all I had on FB

I have had to get rid of it because of the attack on Saturday evening. I expect stuff like that from open boards like MN but I don't expect it from people I've known since I was 2 years old who were in a group I trusted. I was actually quite selective as to who I had on there.

It's rocked my foundations, frankly. And set against a background of other stuff that has been going on it's too much. I'm finding it tough to pull myself out of it this time to be honest.

Please message me through here though, I'd love to stay in touch

xxx

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Jansen · 03/09/2012 22:24

It is hard to believe that people can be so cruel, but I think that having a voice on the internet really brings out the worst in some people. The things I read on Twitter and Facebook, at times, are astonishing. When I read something highly offensive I try to tell myself that it reflects the person, not myself/others they are insulting. Not always easy though.

The views that the person has expressed are just plain wrong, but that doesn't make it any easier to read/accept, and I can understand why you feel so upset. Big gulp, deep breath and hold that head high. There are people that don't understand and never will. But their ignorance is now out of your life and it will be carried by them, and will continue to make them ugly.

WofflingOn · 03/09/2012 22:28

It always hurts more when it is people you know and have liked in the past.
You just have to move on, although it takes a while for the shock to wear off, the sense of crippling disappointment, and the doubting your own ability to judge people's personalities accurately.

mariamma · 04/09/2012 01:13

You knew them at 18y. Some of us grow up. Some don't. You're probably not a bad judge of teenage character, just poor at estimating who will stiil be a decent human being by mid-adulthood.

Hopefully for their sakes, the bit of good you saw in them then will get a chance to re-emerge in later life. At least our dc only have neurological social-communication delay, not wilful stupidity and daily mail induced regression in their moral-ethical-logical skills.

Peachy · 04/09/2012 07:00

Missus, I do feel a bit guilty sorry as it was my FB thread old wanker boy posted on.

Look, I don;t want you to leave FB but get why, but I;d hate mroe to lose touch as I count you as a mate. Please PM me your email addy and I will let you have mine.

Take care X

Peachy · 04/09/2012 07:03

Oh and extra hugs, I remember what it was like when my BIL kicked off, rocked me too.

madmouse · 04/09/2012 10:16

Oh jeepers what horrible people no wonder you are in shock and on the floor. Such an attack from people you trusted. Triple hurt, especially if trust is already an issue. Please take care of yourself xx

Badvoc · 04/09/2012 10:22

You knew them a long time ago op.
A long time.
People change, or rather they didn't and keep their bigoted and disablist opinions all their lives.
I am also no longer on FB - a family members passive aggressive posters about my children got too much - and you know what?
I am so much happier!
I hate FB with a passion...just another virtual bullying tool IMHO.
They are not worth your tears, they deserve your pity.
X

ColouringIn · 04/09/2012 12:40

I saw the thread there and posted as well. Hideous prick that person is with not a fucking clue and nor did he want to have either. The gist is that he thinks we are all crap patents who rushed our kids down to the GP and got them "labelled" autistic .

Only one term for this person.

Ignorant fucker!

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Glitterknickaz · 04/09/2012 12:55

Thank you all very much for the support, you don't know how much it means, honestly xxx

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Peachy · 04/09/2012 15:12

And if you do decide to come back your membership of the group you used to be in is all cleared and people are telling me to tell you that you are completely in the right.

devientenigma · 04/09/2012 15:20

Hi Glitter, chin up and hugs, you will get there, and said in the style of kelly clarkson, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.......... xxx

threesocksmorgan · 04/09/2012 17:24

I hope you come back soon.
I miss you

RabbitsMakeBrownEggs · 04/09/2012 17:35

Oi! Fuck that, you just get back onto Facebook and block the idiots! I am not on the group, but I do know you from elsewhere and I know how draining it is to have a child with needs, Jessica is being assessed now and I am so glad someone is finally listening to me regards her behaviour, because I am so exhausted mentally and emotionally and physically, trying to cope with her and my own needs.

FalseStartered · 04/09/2012 18:32

i just had a 74+ comment thread in your honour Glitter and i'm not even fb buddies with you!

don't let the ignorant fuckers grind you down

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Glitterknickaz · 04/09/2012 18:54

Oh hi Rabbits! Know who you are now.
You used to be friends with me. What happened? hmm (sticks tongue out)

This is not some kind of flounce I genuinely have had the stuffing knocked out of me and feel afraid of being there.

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Glitterknickaz · 04/09/2012 18:55

And False.... I can't see it (sticks tongue out)
Unless it's on here?

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RabbitsMakeBrownEggs · 04/09/2012 19:04

I had a "moment" during my last breakdown and deleted nearly everyone. Basically everyone except family. So if you want to add me again when you do feel up to going back, feel free... I've been popping people back on as I encounter them.

FalseStartered · 04/09/2012 19:07

i deleted it Glitter

it got a bit ..out of hand, but in a good way.

a good release for a lot of stressed parents - i think you might have enjoyed it (but since you don't do fb anymore... Wink )

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Glitterknickaz · 04/09/2012 19:55

Not yet.
I'm not feeling like it's going to be forever any more, I do think I'll go back, but not now I'm not nearly strong enough.
But thank you every one for the support.

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devientenigma · 04/09/2012 19:59

take your time Glitter, come back on top Wink

ColouringIn · 05/09/2012 07:57

Much love to you Glitter....take your time, it's a hideous experience you have been through on there and there is nothing worse than feeling unjustifiably attacked.......which is what happened there. Thinking of you.xx

PedanticPanda · 05/09/2012 08:10

I deleted my fb for a while too due to friends and families comments and jokes about the Paralympics, one particularly vile comment was about how 'midgets playing judo was comedy gold' on the Paralympics Hmm I pointed out that my son would qualify for the Paralympics when he's older and it may be him he's talking about one day, and stood up to a few other ignorant views but realised I can't change everyone so flounced for a while to avoid the comments and 'jokes'.

Why did you all leave? I loved coming onto these boards to talk to you all, but gradually the people who'd always been around got less and less, now I hear you're all hiding out on fb!?

dottyspotty2 · 05/09/2012 10:59

Pedantic kids grow up mines 18 now

Peachy · 05/09/2012 12:13

Pedantic, I left as I couldn;t keep my mouth shut in other areas- politics etc- and I ended up dependent on antidepressants just to keep going, I am now 'clean' of MN but have to be sparing in my use!

5inthebed · 05/09/2012 22:36

Panda, I left as got called a bully and a jealous one at that. Twas not the case.

How re today spanglydraws?