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octavia · 13/03/2006 20:02

My son (6) has HFA and goes to a small mainstream school. He seems to be spending every playtime on his own,which makes him stand out because he starts to "twiddle" his fingers and jump up and down if he isn't occupied. He has had friends in the past and when I ask why he isn't friends with such and such anymore he says its because they think he's annoying when he keeps wanting to play the same thing/repeating things.He does tend to monopolise people and can't understand boundries, but he's a really lovely little boy with a lovely imagination and a great sense of fun.He does find it hard to play in a group and prefers 1-1 play or will cope with 2-1 if encouraged.He doesn't really like typical boy games though, so this must be a problem for the other boys. I hate him being on his own, what can I do to help.He talks to everyone appparently and they talk to him but its not the same is it. I asked him if he minds and he told me to stop fussing! but I do mind , maybe I'm hormonal and taking everything to heart to much. My Dh said it sad but let him get on with it, maybe I should. Sorry for the essay Blush

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sphil · 13/03/2006 20:39

Does he have a sympathetic teacher? You could talk to her and ask her if she could encourage some small group or 1:1 play - perhaps doing something guided rather than letting them have free rein?

Does he have friends come home to play? I've found this is a way of encouraging more 'bonding' at school, especially if you make sure they have a really good time!(Manipulative I know, but what the hell...) My son is 4.5 and dyspraxic - at the moment he seems to have lots of friends and his teacher says he's popular, but he also likes playing repetitive games and I've noticed he's often tagging along behind a group rather than really being included. I worry that he might become isolated when he gets older and the others get more 'streetwise' (which I don't think he'll ever be Grin ).

Of course, he may not mind! The 'don't fuss' comment sounds very familiar Grin.

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