If I moved to England

[tunafortea]

Hi

Namechanged for this.

If I moved to England with a private Dx
(but with a local unsupporting Dx (and damning me) previous to that)

Would I:

Sign up with GP and get on cahms waiting list (20 wks)

Contact local SS asking for assessment / help?

Discuss with school the dyslexia concerns?
Discuss with school the school refusal probs from past?
Ask for school action plus?

Or none of the above but wait and see what happens as being proactive has go me burned in the past?

thanks

In your situation as far as I have read (assuming it is just dyslexia you are concerned about). I would visit local schools and ask to speak to the SENCO whilst there, I would be brutally honest about the past and the two diagnoses. I would then look to see if : a) I had to spell out in detail what all the issues are, b) if they seemed sympathetic. If from this I felt I had found the right school, I would then appeal to get a place even if it was full. (The best school I know for this type of child is large but has an amazing SENCo who used to work ina PRU, and I think has the mission to keep as many children in mainstream as possible.)

ASD and Anxiety too

I think knowing your situation I would look for a mainstream school with an ASD unit attached (and check out with any local support group if good reputation). Get your child into the mainstream part of the school to start with, knowing if issues are identified there will be support on site. I would tell schools you consider your DS has ASD, dyslexia and anxiety. A private dx supports this but previous Council / NHS unsure. You would hope that lengthy observation in a school with specialism would help work out what was going on. You can say previous NHS considered it parental anxiety but given conflicting views you are looking for a school which will be open minded and make their own judgment on basis of getting to know your DS. I would mention school refusal too.

Do CAMHS and SS if you need the support, otherwise wait.

OK.
Thanks, Agnes.
Saw my friend from over the border again today and her Ds and mine are like peas in a pod. He is dx'd ASD, ADHD, POA (?) and something else! She gets masses of support, he gets lots of 1:1 and is school action plus. Even his sister gets social support at school as she is shy and has been affected by his behaviour.
Do you know how I find where mainstream with ASD units attached are located?

I think you ring up the local education authority for the area you are thinking of moving to, and ask to be sent a list of all schools with specialst ASD provision and units. I did this but had to be very forceful as at first I was refused. I was sent a list of all schools with codings to show their classifications so had to highlight the correct classication I was interested in to make sense of it. Alternatively try the internet.
Could POA be PDA - pathalogical demand avoidance?

sounds like there's something to be said for moving near your friend's place... hmm, a cheap place in the right school catchment...

Hi Maria

Tis a suitable house (but on a farm and 15m from town, 8m from school) so no other kids around.
School (for next 2 years) has good ofsted but Ive not spoken to them yet.
V small - only about 45 kids. No idea their attitude SEN/SN.

School which would come after this is the one which seems good, recommended by friend.
Town has highest support for SEN/SN in county its in.

I need to separate from H asap.
If I stay in house I'm in I will need support from him and I cant' risk that.
Also scared wont manage private fees if he is difficult about maintenance etc (and I think he might be?)

Country house I could easily manage by myself.
Small school (even if it turns out to be not great) is free and both kids can go together. It is English nhs and English LEA

Sounds like a plan...