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Gorta · 17/08/2012 06:26

Hi girls,
I live in Ireland and applying for dca is similar to DLA. I have a dd who has a complex impairment SLI, dyspraxia, SPD and autistic traits. She receives full time Special needs assistant in school and was assessed by an educational psychologist in school this year and found to have a low non verbal skills. She also has low process speed and working memory. She has been receiving therapy from the age of 18 months and is getting ongoing intervention. I am at home full time because of her needs. I applied for this allowance and was refused. I asked for a review and was refused. I provided lots of reports and a daily diary with lots of info. I appealed the decision and I was refused. I am stubborn and I really felt deserving of this allowance for the amount of care my dd needs and the amount of private therapy we need to provide ourselves. So I re-appealed and got called to an oral hearing which took place this week. I had to talk for an hour about the substantial extra care my dd needs above and beyond her peers. I went on my own and I had put tons of preparation in to argue my case. I found the whole experience horrific. I cried fo most of the hour to have to talk about our beautiful adored child in such negative terms. I was told at the end I had provided enough evidence and my appeal is allowed. I feel so upset to have had to go through this. I feel so emotionally drained and am so sad that I had to work so hard on providing negatives about my child. Over the years we would have received the different reports and it hit us hard but l have never felt as emotionally raw as l do this week. I suppose I also think about what I can do and think positively rather than looking to far into the future.

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NoHaudinMaWheest · 17/08/2012 21:55

So sorry you have had this really difficult experience but well done to you for your persistence. I am not surprised you feel emotionally raw - even filling in the DLA form is bad enough.
Hope you feel better soon now that the necessary support is in place and can refocus on the positives.

coff33pot · 17/08/2012 23:11

Its cruel and its wrong that you have had to go to such lengths :(

Two things you need to do........

  1. Be proud because you should be as you have not let the system crack you into accepting their decision without the world and all its men hearing you out once and for all. Good for you x

  2. Look at your DD and smile because yes ok you had to talk out all the negatives to strangers but the one that really knows your lovely DD and the positives and joy she brings you each day :)

Well done have a deserved hot bubble bath and a Wine or chocolate you have done your family proud.

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