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Help with DS(5) - more than just a speech problem?

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MustTidyPlayroom · 14/08/2012 17:06

I'm hoping for some advice with regard to DS2 who was 5 in May.

He's been seeing a SALT for over 18 months on the NHS and at the advice of the school is getting extra help from a private therapist (I did post about this on the Primary Education board a month or so ago).

The new therapist seems to be working well and we can see some small improvements in his speech, however the initial report is niggling away at me (we are on holiday and I don't have a copy to refer to which may be adding to my general anxiety about him) - much of the report is what we already know - immature speech sounds and grammar and a slightly higher than average vocabulary. What came as a surprise to me was that she says he has a below average comprehension and struggles to follow complex instructions.

DS can be fairly difficult - he can be loving, caring and helpful. He is incredibly strong and seems to be good at sports, but is struggling academically. He is very practical (can tie complex fire brigade knots, good at puzzles and loves helping DH to build and fix things). However he can be very stubborn, awkward and can hold a grudge - we still have toddler type tantrums that can last an hour or more and ruin many family days out.

I suppose to an extent I have always found DS2 hard compared to the others; he was a miserable baby who was attached to me for the first year (he would bawl if I looked like I was going to stand up) and since then I have found his general awkwardness difficult to deal with.

According to his teachers he has lots of friends and is popular and well-behaved in class, but often complains that nobody plays with him - not something I believe as I pick his younger brother early most days and see him racing round the playground with his friends.

So, that is a bit of background - the private SALT has suggested in her report that any instructions are given broken down to one step at time, but has suggested no formal diagnosis (as i think this is outside her area of expertise) - I am unsure what else we should be doing to help him - there is so much that I seem to need to concentrate on

  • behind in maths
  • behind in reading
  • practice speech sounds
  • practice grammar (via a variety of games)
And fit this in amongst family life, activities and a full-time job.

I feel throughly overwhelmed and half way through the holidays don't feel we have progressed far.

Any help or suggestions from any of you in a similar situation would be very much appreciated.

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zzzzz · 14/08/2012 17:35

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MustTidyPlayroom · 14/08/2012 18:22

Thank you so much for your reply - just had a look on amazon at the book and will order when we get home.

This will hopefully point us in the right direction - I'll also have a look at YouTube when we get home too.

I think the problem is that there is nothing specific - he can and do things that are so daft at times, but at other times is incredibly careful and considerate - I know this sounds like most 5 year olds, but I have always worried that there is something not quite right.

This will sound awful, but although I love all three children the same it hasn't come naturally with DS2 and is something that I have to constantly work at.

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zzzzz · 14/08/2012 19:25

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MustTidyPlayroom · 15/08/2012 16:47

Thanks again zzzzz, DS has no idea - if anything I over compensate, DH does however notice.

Looking forward to getting the book when we get home - and trying to relax for the rest of our holiday!

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