Was there no Friday Night thread?? Can I start a Sat night one instead?

[hazeyjane]

Hope everyone is ok.

Ds had pneumonia and was in hospital last Saturday, but has spent the week improving really well, which was good because it was dh's only bit of time off over the Summer holidays, so we managed to have a couple of good days out with the dds.

It did highlight the worry I have about the girls and how this all affects them. They are so great about having to go to hospital and stuff, but they have both been anxious and clingy all week, I guess because they pick up on our worry.

Hi Hazey. Sorry about your DS hope he continues to improve and good that you managed at least some outings with the girls. I know what you mean about the effect on other children. My DD is always really mature and stoical about the restrictions DS's special needs place on us but occasionally something happens which shows that she does feel it. She has been on a Young Carers activity week organised by students at the university this week and really enjoyed it - the break away from home and doing the activities which it is difficult for us to organise.

Thankyou NoHaudin, I have wondered about the young carers thing. I don't want them to feel pressured by the label 'carer', but their lives are different to most of their friends. Maybe I'll start a thread about it.

Can I claim this as the shortest (non) Friday night thread ever?!

I think everyone is either away or knackered from coping with the hols hazy

Hope your Ds is improving.

I took the plunge and told Dd3 about her ASD dx this week which has led to some interesting behaviour but she has been pretty quirky for the last couple of weeks so I thought I might as well go for it.

Will be away for next 2 weeks friday night threads but hope everyone has a good couple of weeks

yes Hazey reckon it is but it is holiday time. My two are always asking what day it is. I hate the term young carer - dd doesn't do any caring but she is affected especially as DH and I also have disabilities. However involvement in Young Carers has been good for her and I think it is actually a minority there who have an active caring role.

Ineed hope you have a good break assuming that's why you will be away.

Yes NHMW we are doing 2 short camping trips with a 2 day turn around between them LOL.

Should be fun, just need a little bit of sun to help it go smoothly

Thought it was me being a bit daft and not being able to find the Friday thread Wanted to post too as we have had a lovely week and it's nice to be able to share good news. I only ever seem to post problems on MN. It was dd's 6th birthday and this year she suffered from far less anxiety about it than in previous years and therefore we had less tantrums and stress. I actually had a fairly relaxing day all things considered! Maybe it helped that we had a really chilled out holiday last week. We spent a week in Spain and dd only actually left the villa twice and spent an entire week in the pool! We went with another family and it really felt like some of the NT behaviour from their kids rubbed off in her. Things like watching them have sun cream on willingly for example really really helped.

I have my carpel tunnel surgery tomorrow so should disappear for a week or two if I'm being good about resting my hands.....

Glad you had a good holiday lola , i really fancy a villa with a pool one day.

Would have trouble getting another family to go with us though

We have also had a bit of a suncream breakthrough this year Dd3 has tolerated a different one to normal and has been really chilled about the smell.

Good luck with your surgery

We practically bit their hand off when they offered no way we could have afforded it ion our own either. (well we couldn't really afford it anyway, but it was too perfect a proposition so we loaded the credit card up.)

Our sun cream breakthrough hasn't lasted on our return home though as dd says it isn't hot enough here. Hope yours is more lasting.

I think Dd3's smell issues have lessened recently for some reason as she suddenly started having school dinners at the end or term which has always been a nono.

I have my fingers crossed that she is learning that smells cant actually harm her.

glad you had a good holiday, Lola.

I am having the most frustrating day, dds have watched tv all morning, ds has been screaming, I can't get ds to go to sleep even though he has been rubbing his eyes since 9 this morning, but have been unable to drag the girls out of the house to take him for a walk - god I'm pathetic.

Not pathetic at all hazy, have you tried bribery positive reiforcement,

eg, lets go for a walk and go to the play ground, or get an ice lolly or sweeties

I find this usually works with mine, although I am a fine one to talk Dd3 is still in her PJ's in front of the TV

I have been trying bribery, sweets, ice lolly, cafe, comic - I am shameless. They won't budge, and I am feeling all flat because dh is back at work today, so don't have much fight in me. In the meantime ds is a big overtired clammy mess - urgh.

Hmmm, sorry, trying to teach granny to suck eggs

Would he go off if you rocked him in the buggy in the house or garden.

I used to regularly do this with Dd2 and 3.

I just managed to persuade them to go out, and it started absolutely tipping down, so bollocks to that.

However, ds has finally gone to sleep on the sofa, dd2 is curled up with him watching a film (I don't feel so bad now its raining!) and I have promised I will make a jeans bracelet with dd1, when i have finished my coffee. phew.

Managed to make bracelet, and now he has woken up screaming and hot, oh dear I hope he isn't ill again.

I give up.

hope he is ok hazy.

Thankyou, how are things with you Hothead?

Ds didn't go to sleep until 10 last night, and is very screamy this morning, i don't know if he is in pain or frustrated or what is going on. I do know that i have done my back in, because I have been having to pick him up so much lately. #

Anyway, dosed up with painkillers with a heat bag strapped to my back, today will be a better day (it has to be dd1's friend is spending the day with us - 3 x 5/6 year old girls and 1 screechy 2 yr old = need for chocolate and coffee!)