First things first ds 7 ASD, dd 17mths - seems to be NT so far.
Right I'm struggling this summer with things to do with dc. Dd needs to take a nap around midday and so I need to fit something into the morning and then late afternoon. Dd will sleep in her cot or the car but not buggy way too much going on and she wants to be out walking/talking to everyone and anything. If she doesn't have that sleep then she turns into a temper mess. I feel really bad for ds because his life is now dictated by dds routine which was set to fit in with ds school runs. When we are out dd is mobile and so needs watching which means I'm not watching ds. He isn't a runner and will wait around for dd - but then he does his talking to himself or jumping around (he's usually acting something out), this behaviour singles him out as acting strangely and means other children don't try to play with him. Between running after dd and and reminding ds when hes doing his thing - is the called stemming? That brings me onto my next thing ...
I've been on here about a year - and still don't know a quarter of what you lot know, I don't know the jargon and I always feel on the back foot. We have private SALT and I am trying to research ABA but not sure if a full blown ABA is the best way to go it if I could actually do it with dd running around. I'm looking at two noise program's for ds, one he would do over 20wks listening to music with special bone conduction head phones OR one where he goes for 2wks listens to music and watches lights - I know this is AIT but is the former?? At 2k a piece I can only pick one and I'm lose as to which one to choose.
Also a lot of you seem to find groups for your dc to attend - proper SN ones too. The professionals I've dealt with think that ds should attend NT groups because he would learn better to socialise from a group that doesn't have issues socialising. But I think he needs to build confidence and a group that is similar to him would be better for now .....how do you all find these places, I scoured the primary times looking for something for him but there was nothing.
I am panicking that I'm not doing enough that I have so many balls in the air and I can't catch them all. Ds SALT has done wonders and he can speak well but how do I move him on to the next stage so he will have more confidence talking to other dc.
What do you all do? What would you do if you had my ds - no LD, speech delay but closing the gap, wants to socialise but either loses track of the game, is ignored or watches from the sidelines - when he does get a chance to play its a joy. He has sensory issues around noise. He's in MS - good and helpful school - but I feel like I'm in a maze and I can't find the exit ........and all the while there a breeze block on my brain
Kicks up the arse are possibly required - advice needed 