Aaaaarrrrrgggghhhhhh!

[neverputasockinatoaster]

Just need a small and insignificant rant!
DS is/has(never know how to write that..)ASD. He's 7. He doesn't 'get' humour or people saying daft things. He will respond by saying 'Daddy!' or whoever in a cross voice and then make a cross growly sound. DH and I respond by explaining that we are joking.
We are trying to teach him to ask if he doesn't understand he can either say he doesn't understand or he can laugh politely and ask us later. We are trying to teach him that the growly thing is not acceptable.
My mum feels we should all stop using humour as she doesn't like his reaction....... He's never going to 'get' daft humour and idioms but we can teach him to react in a more acceptable fashion but she sees it as one more area that I am a crap parent.....

Aaaaaarrrrrgggghhhhhh!!!!!!

ask your mum nicely to ..................button it

DS doesnt get jokes and has learnt to laugh on cue. He now tells us his own jokes which are not in the slightest a joke ie. why did the chicken cross the road? because he left his roller skates there! EXACTLY but he is getting the idea iyswim. We also get a MUM! grrrr but he does stop frowning once we have spelt out it is a joke.

But if the joke is played on him............well we just dont do it as he doenst like surprises and does feel he is being laughed at. However I think he is getting it as I went and bought some silly kids jokes ie water squirter ring, plastic ice lolly to put in freezer for Dad so he may not mind being a recipient in the future.

Keep going at it x

I have been given advice by people who know f..k all about ASD.

I usually just smile and ignore them or laugh. Sometimes it does get you down though.

We were told by the SALT to explain idioms to Dd3 as she has a very good memory and once she has been told what they mean she tends to remember.

I really dont think you should stop using humour around your Ds because other people in the wider world wont and I would go bonkers if I couldnt have a jole about some situations.

Just keep reminding him that growling is not appropriate but I wouldnt make too much of it if I were you.

Good luck

We are doing the same with our 6yr old dd (she growls too) if we don't teach her growling is not an acceptable response when she is being teased she's going to have a rough time at school. I can't say we are getting anywhere fast but I can't not try.

Yes, Ineedaflippinmedal - if we explain idioms to DS he does remember them so we do explain.
coff33pot DS understands the mechanics of a joke so will tell us his own 'jokes' much as your DS does. He has also swallowed a joke book and spurts them out....!
We also need to work on DS's fake laugh.......he laughs as you would write it ie Aha ha ha and so totally over done!
Deep joy!