DD behaviour getting worse

[Lucylockett106]

Hi all. My 3 yr old DS has behavioural and emotional problems. His behaviour is very aggressive towards most people. His sister is nearly 6 yrs old and she ha started to shout and stomp around. Her attitude is like that of a 15 year old ggrrrrr!!!! I tell he to do something and she scowls and shouts no atme. I ave enough problems with DS without her performing too... I try and take a deep breath and take on board her life is affected by her brother but it's really starting to get me down. Any tips x

My daughter of similar age went through the same thing. She is the middle child, eldest son has SN and youngest is a toddler. Most of the attention was on the other 2. We started with special 1:1 time with her. One parent spent 1:1 time with the other doing an activity of her choice, and the other parent looked after the other 2. Her behaviour / attitude improved dramatically. In our case it was carrot rather than the stick that was the turning point.

I agree I need to make time for her. I've just been diagnosed with pnd and although I was fine after having her she gets the brunt of my moods :(. I feel for her. She's clever and a very busy child who loves to perform and dance and I just don't have the patience. I feel so guilty. Thanks for your reply. Xx

Baby steps, important you take care of yourself too. Are you getting any help for you. I had pnd with my second and I must've seemed awful to my first child. You may find as things improve with you that you might deal with her behaviour more easily. You are not well, so try and avoid the guilt trips. Good luck x

Thank you for your kind words x