What a bloody farce!

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Dh took dd2 to the theatre last night.Yes she has autism but she is a doddle tbh and bearing in mind she is our fifth child why did I get frantic texts before the curtain went up because dd was ignoring dh and people were looking at her thinking she was a spoilt brat?
Believe it or not I had to text dd to remind her of my expectations because dh couldn't do it himself
You would think though that having been a parent for 25 years somewhere along the line he'd have picked up a trick or two wouldn't you?
Hitting home I think just how single handedly I have raised our lot and how flipping useless dh is

I'm sorry insanity. What an utter cock. Did make me chuckle that you had to discipline your DD by text, because your DH couldn't do it himself! Sorry, shouldn't laugh, but it's just so ridiculous.

It is so bloody stupid because she really is the easiest child ever, easier than my older NT ones have been at times too.
Best of it is dd read the text and behaved impeccably from then on just as I'd have expected.
No wonder I'm knackered and never sign off though is there?

Glad you can still laugh about it, insanity. I'd have killed him years ago. Does he have any uses? Hopefully he earns lots of money?

Ah, I wouldn't have texted her, just him with ffs you're her dad, figure it out, and then turned my phone off. It's about time he learned.

Are you starting a club, insanity - for those of us that have other halves that always seem to be posted missing when the hard parenting starts?
3DS, total years at current school - 8 years. Number of appearances at any school event/meeting etc - 3 (and 2 of those were this year). Pathetic. Don't get me started on medical appointments - only 1 and that's because they asked to meet him!
It would also explain how he had to frantically call me during the re-mortgage meeting to check the dates of birth of OUR children.
As I was writing the first line, I forgot the punctuation and it asked 'Are you starting a clubinsanity' - enough said!

How frustrating insanity. I've raised DS as a lone parent from birth and I swear it's easier to do it that way. I could not cope with all the potential conflict from having to share parenting of a child with ASD, you have to make tough decisions and it's harder to be consistent when there are two adults with different ideas about everything.

Doesn't sound like your DH is helping at all, are you questioning if it's worth staying in the relationship? It was a hard call to leave my exP but overall it's given me the freedom to enjoy dating and seek happiness with someone new. You deserve to be happy and your dc deserve to have a male figure who actually makes an effort to understand them.

I have raised them as a single parent tbh. There is no conflict because he has opted out. There has always been a reason he's "not good with babies/toddlers/bad behaviour or autism" or teenagers or adults seemingly The older ones know he has had no input and don't bother with him too much tbh we've been away a week and not one of them have text or called him whereas I get dozens. The younger two don't see him as my partner or as having any authority so always look to me to check that what he says goes. Dd who says what she sees has asked more than once why I am married because "Daddy is pointless and a waste of space"
I suppose I stick with it because he pays the bills and I don't have that to think about and I'd worry about the effect any upheaval would cause ds but I am definitely not happy but also sad because he has missed out on a lot and I think my children have too

Sorry but that did make me smile, but i think its because my dh would do similar.
Blokes, bloody useless!

insanity, I think our DH's may be twins separated at birth!
DS3 drew/wrote a picture the other day with all the family initials, N for Nana, W for the dog were included too. I asked where D for dad was and he said 'Oh, I forgot' - says it all really.
I also know that feeling of sadness that they are missing out on so much and don't seem to realise it. I also wonder what their relationship will be like when they're older. It is sad though when you know that your marriage only hangs on by the fact that they are good financial providers. I miss the man I married(when we were poor!).

Dd brings Christmas cards and Easter cards from school with no mention of a Daddy in fact I'm sure they'd think I was a single parent if it wasn't for the fact his name is on her statement because he doesn't do parents evenings or AR's because he hasn't got a clue about what's going on.
Once my son was mistaken for her Daddy and Dd piped up "I wish Ben was my Daddy as he's much better than Daddy" purely because he plays a bigger part in her life

that takes the

dd (age 4) once said to her gmother... you know in (name of our city) the mummies do all the work..

I have stopped asking DP to come with me to meetings about Dd3 because I am so sick of him saying "We just need some strategies to help us!!"

I have introduced the red and yellow card and visual timetable amongst other things and does he use them?? Does he hell.

It drives me barmy, I do all the planning, all the organisation, all the thinking and have done for too many years.

Sometimes I feel like throwing the towel in with him but have never actually done it.

insanity, I know exactly what you mean and if there was a club for single mums who have a partner then I would join.