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#%€$-head ruining our lovely swimming

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frizzcat · 01/08/2012 18:50

Ds 7 (ASD) loves swimming he can't actually swim so thus summer I booked him some 121 lessons with a swim school. He loves it and making good progress. The swim school doesn't have disabled changing rooms - and I can't take him in the boys so I take him to the girls and tbh there are lots of boys there too - maybe not as old as him but not far off either (ds is very tall looks older). He can dress and undress himself but I stay with him to prompt him to hurry- they do like to stop and have a daydream. Because we are in the girls changing room I supervise the shower and take him to a cubicle to get dressed. The issue is the showers, you can't quite see if one is in use, so my ds peeks behind the curtain and if it's being used then moves to the next one - I'm with him the whole time.
We came out of the changing rooms today - and this girl comes up to me with her dad following and says "excuse me your son keeps looking at me in the showers"
Well, a red mist descended I was so pissed off at the dad for not coming to me if she was upset but seriously fucked off at what was being implied - especially I was there the whole time and he wasn't looking - unless she's dressed as angry bird, donkey kong or bloody mario he wouldn't be looking at anyone.

I did tell the dad we were looking for a free shower and I was with him the whole time - he backed off when he saw how angry I was - I'd look over it if we were talking about teenagers or adults but these are kids!!!!!!!!!! So angry

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slacklucy · 01/08/2012 18:54

he's 7 ffs. ASD or not most 7 yrs olds would do the same.
Ignore!
I hope he enjoys his swimming

coff33pot · 01/08/2012 19:08

Ignore it. I would have thought if it really concerned him then it would be the Dad that should have said something on the quiet rather than the girl. She is probably at that self consious age.

I hope the swimming went well!

FallenCaryatid · 01/08/2012 19:26

A fuss over nothing, but next time you do the checking to see if the shower is empty.

frizzcat · 01/08/2012 19:26

Cheers slack
That's what I thought coff - but then I remembered when I calmed down a bit - still fuming. The same said girl was standing with no clothes on whilst she was hoking in her bag - she just reminded me of one of these bad attitude stage school kids.
I don't know, maybe I'm going stir crazy - I've lost my summer plan b park to the Olympics and my imagination is not kicking in for alternatives

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FallenCaryatid · 01/08/2012 19:35

Most of the pools round here expect you to shower in your costume and change in a cubicle, not wander around in the nude unless you are a littlie.
She doesn't sound too traumatised!

frizzcat · 01/08/2012 20:14

Same round here - so we weren't expecting it to be honest. I ds practising speed drying and dressing and now debating whether to send him into the boys on his own - lets see the boys parents mind me bustling in to hurry ds along....
Either way ds loves this and if the dad looks at me the wrong way then he can go for a nice cooling swim fully clothed Grin

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