DS wants his slow worm back :(

[coff33pot]

He is still awake heartbroken about it all and I am so so angry.

I have ranted before about the taunting an bully tactics in our estate but this takes the biscuit.

Yesterday DS found a slow worm in the middle of the road and brought it in. By the looks of it either a cat or bird had dropped it there because its an unusual place for it to land up. Told him they were protected and it was unlawful to harm or kill one but you can rescue one if deemed injured and release into wild when better.

Ok so DS made it a project and we constructed a temp home of soil, water, damp grass and DS went on a juicy worm and slug hunt for his dinner. :) By the end of the day his name was Slither and DS was going to make his head better. A little girl was interested in it and so he invited her into see it.

Today he has nursed this thing all day sprinkling water gently so his home remains humid etc. Decides to carry the home around to the little girls to show her how well it was doing and look for a flat stone for it to slide under.

And so this child (the 14yr old) says to my 7 yr old that if he let him hold it then he could stay in this area of the estate. DS let him pick it up and the little so and so threw it and impaled it in a bramble bush in his garden. :(

Heard DS screaming and demanding the rescue of his friend. The parents of this boy told him he shouldnt have brought it out then. The parents of the little girl and adults from other houses were all staring at my son like he was a circus act and beckoning their kids inside. NOT ONE adult helped him :(

He is still up now crying and for the first time told me his emotions that his heart hurts and it is crushed and no one will make it better again till he gets slither back. This is going to be a hard weekend :(

What a little shit. I'm sorry your lovely boy is so trusting, when these horrible children don't deserve his trust, and the parents aren't much better. I hope they are the ones who are moving? Give your DS a hug. I hope the summer holidays get a bit better for you all. September in the juniors to look forward to. X

that is absolutely awful poor ds

I am new here, so I will mind my manners, but I am seething! How DARE any "person" behave in that manner, and to have adults condone it is just disgusting. I am so sorry for your DS, and wish I could fix his broken heart

Oh coff33pot that's just horrendous. What a complete shit of a child and what hideous adults to condone it

So sorry for your ds x We had a similar issue with craig the slug and some little shit grabed it from my ds and killed it. Hope your ds is ok xx

Words fail me honestly re these human vermin; that is what they are.

BTW you are correct re slowworms, it is a criminal offence to kill such creatures.

Have a look at this website:-
www.arc-trust.org

It may be interesting for your son to get involved in something like this if there is an opportunity.

You know what? I get the cruelty of children. I don't like it but I get it. They are children but when I hear stories like this and that adults have just stood by and done nothing it makes me feel sick.
what is wrong wi some people??!

How sad. Adults are complete sh1ts and should be ashamed of themselves; no wonder that is how the children behave with role models like that.
And poor slow worm too - impaled on brambles! Just awful and so very upsetting for your DS to experience such cruelty both to him and to the poor slow worm.
I really don't know what else to say - is there any way at all you could move?

Neighbourhood police team might feel like cautioning the slow worm killer.

Thank you for that Attila :) That link was ideal. Managed to prise DS out of his bedroom to show him it. He went to sleep at about 2am but was up at 4am and I heard front door go and low and behold he was trying to knock the door of the perpertrator to beg them to get Slither down out of their garden. He is tired today and just said he still wants Slither back and said in is descriptive words "my heart is hurt to its soul" while I am pleased he is telling me his feelings, because he normally doesnt I know he has got to be devastated :(

Unfortunately his upset has now turned to anger and he is a very tired angry little boy who yelled and threw a cushion at the simple fact he couldnt spread the butter straight on his toast this morning.

What makes it worse was that he went and called for his 3 7yr old friends separately with his sister this morning and every parent said their child isnt allowed to play "by our house" :( So now he is confused and angry at his friends thinking they dont want to play with him when its the ignorance of parents. All because he was curled up in a ball in the street hugging his worm box and crying for them to get his worm back :( DD said the kids wanted to go play with him but he was allowed to talk to one of them for 5 mins only.

I hate this world today along with DS.

On a good note he rushed back up to his room but did tell DD to ask mum to download the conservation app on the phone and he MAY look at it later

and for your poor boy and his little friend slither.

Honestly, as Badvoc said, I understand that kids will be mean and downright nasty sometimes. What makes me furious is that the adults around them who are supposed to be teaching by example and showing them the right way fail to do so and often display worse behaviour than the children.

We have a similar ongoing problem with some wormy creatures that have taken up residence in some long-term puddley/pondy things at the school. Ds loves animals, particularly bugs and insects. He has tried desperately to defend the worms against gangs of children who are taking delight in stamping on them and finding other equally abhorrent ways of killing and torturing them. It's all ended up with big blow ups and meltdowns and the adults failing to support ds and allowing the 'worm murderers' to get away with it. Fortunately, one teacher (ds's class teacher) has finally realisedn (after a fortnight of ds being distressed) that, not only is what the other children doing wrong, but also how important it is to ds that sanctions are put in place on the perpertrators, so all pupils have been banned from approaching the puddles now. There was a long time when none of the teachers or dinner supervisors would listen and seemed to want to argue about whether the worms were pond-life or land bugs rather than stopping them being killed by mindless thugs, all the time with ds getting more and more distressed and frustrated and getting into trouble for screaming at the other kids.

We've been through similar with kids stamping on ants and beetles in the past.

It's unbelievable that the other parents think being distraught about the loss of a pet/friends is unusual or inappropriate, let alone stopping their dcs playing with your ds. Honestly, what is wrong with people.

Like you I often find myself not liking this world very much some days.

I hope you can find some way to comfort your ds, I know you will, because you are an incredible mum who is so in tune with your child.

Sending lots of love and light to both of you. x

your poor DS . I cannot believe the cruelty of kids sometimes when they are old enough to know better, but when you look at how their parents react perhaps you can see where they get it from. I am still at the adults though.

coff

i'm in tears at your OP, how truly awful for DS

is it possible for you to take him to somewhere (wildlife park?) to show him not all people are so cruel to animals?

i'd see the red rage at those other adults too, how fucking cruel their minds must be.

my heart is sad to it's soul for him

We regularly go to a bird santuary down here and he loves it so I am going there this afternoon with him.

He doesnt like my car dirty so at the moment (yes you are allowed to laugh) I have sprayed the whole car with wooshy cream as not even a sea gull has pooed on it today. So DS is out with his water pistol wooshing it back off

The neighbours dont know me but think we are wierd anyway so what the hell. Unfortunately its not the ones that are moving.

Yes kids are cruel and its all part of growing up and I totally buy that but if no one is going to teach them right or wrong then there is no hope for them. The boy that vandalised my car and verbally abused ds (brother of worm killer) I have invited him in for tea and he can be a good lad when given the attention, he has got a good side and has come in several times to chat. But at the same time I have to go and retrieve bits missing from the house, kept my cool and told him he can come back when he has apologised for what he has done. Instead of the usual denying he has apologised so he can do it. His bother unfortunately has developed lack of respect for any living thing human or otherwise. My old cat was egged badly last weekend and as he is a rescue one who was beaten is a wreck again poor thing.

It is a nice area and there are nice children, lot of oldies etc but in every estate you get the families from hell and unfortunately DS seems to be the current target because he is so trusting and wanting to fit in.

Moosemama DS would have gone ballistic if he saw someone stand on an earthworm too!

They are blood worms, which are actually midge larvae, but ds doesn't care. He's been bitten all up his legs defending them, but says he doesn't mind sharing a bit of his blood if it helps them!

Of course if the other kids find out they are baby midges that will give them another reason for killing them.

I told ds about what happened to your ds and his slowworm and he cried. He said he is so sad for both your little boy and the slowworm and demanded I tell him why people are so cruel to creatures. What can I tell him? I just said that some people aren't nice, kind or caring like he is and he should be proud of how caring and helpful he is.

I would have liked to tell him that they are young and will learn, but sadly without proper adult guidance I don't think that will ever be the case.

Oh Moose :( Tell your DS for every one person that is cruel there are 20 or more who are not and so we outnumber the bad ones :)

That App on Attillas link is really good if you have a smartphone or ipad etc. You can search what reptile or amphibian you are looking at by putting in a few details and it comes up with pictures and info on similar matching species! you can "report in" by adding your area destination of where you found it etc and a factility to take a photo. There is a world map so you can see the sightings that have been spotted. Just marked DSs Slow worm sighting for him to view later :) Perhaps your DS might like that so he will feel involved in conservation.

I actually like it myself :)

Will have a look at that link later. I think ds will love it and I need lots of ideas to keep him busy at the moment, because every time he is at a loose end he bursts into tears because he only has three days left of being in year 5.

Dh has already taught him some html and then set him an html challenge this morning, so he can start building his own website. We then allowed him to download a free game from the DSi shop using his points and he's now playing that during his DS time. Was wondering what to do with him next. Will have been a whole day of screens, but needs must sometimes I guess.

Heartened to read that the link posted was helpful to you:).

A

BTW amazon do some good books on UK reptiles and amphibians which your children may also like. This is but one example:-

www.amazon.co.uk/Britains-Reptiles-Amphibians-Wildlife/dp/1903657253/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342891837&sr=8-1