Fucking bastards ruined end of term show for ds

[Mamamaiasaura]

My ds(4y) was so excited this morning to do end of preschool show. They had the one teacher who doesn't relate to him grasping him by the wrist for the duration and then when it was his bit rather than letting him stand with his friends she dangled him by is crotch over her leg so making him uncomfortable and apart from his peers. I'm am so bloody angry that they treated him this way. He was not in anyway disruptive at all. I am literally in tears as is this how my beautiful little boy is going to be treated by adults in a position to care for him???

How horrible for your son. Some teachers don't do empathy unfortunately.

Did you ask her why?

had she been pre anticipating him doing something random?

had he done so at rehearsals ?

I hope he's not to upset, it sounds like she doesn't feel confidant around your DS, will she be involved next year?

I would ask why that was handled in such an inappropriate manner.

DS2 doesn't like to participate in shows, but likes to sit just in front of all the children (in the audience) and read along in the script. It's the only way he can tolerate the noise and the people, with headphones and focusing on the words. He rarely even looks up from the script. Then afterwards he is all excited "did you see me mummy?"

It was leavers show so he won't be back next year. The woman holding him was the one who was changed as his key worker as they didn't click .

I was told "he was really good in the practice". I feel silly but I'm so upset by this I've cried. I am cross withy self for not speaking up straight away. He has his party on Friday and I'm quite concerned that they'll be holding him then. Thing is, he did nativity fine and he doesn't flap/shriek or anything . I don't know how to broach this as not prepared to leave him at party if they are going to be grabbing at him

Don't feel silly,it's never silly to be concerned about your children,

go and talk to them about your worries.

they might be thinking they are doing the right thing, guide them, explain to them how you would handle the situation, show them the way, and then they have to consider how they are handling this.

They don't have a clue sometimes, when my ds was 5 I watched as his TA pulled him across the hall by his arm in front of a hall crammed with parents, he didn't even get chance to wave at me before they shoved him at the back behind the other children......I was fuming about that, wanted to drag the TA around the hall by her arm I can tell you! and what really took the piss was that the HT stood looking on as it was happening!!

cloudymeatballs it was very much like that. It's meant to be leaving party on Friday and they are expecting them to sit around tables nicely eating food 45 4 year olds. I don't know that I want him to go but equally I dont want to exclude him because of their twatishness. (sorry for language, I'm still fuming).

Got 2nd appt at paed tomorrow. Need to list all the questions I can think of as last time she dx him HFA and this is first chance at speaking to her since