Starting school in nappies

[mumineedawee]

Anyone any experience of what its like to have a child start school in nappies?

My child is asd/adhd and at almost five still is not trained.

The school are aware and will have a personal care assistant attend to his nappy/toileting requirements.

I am feeling strange about it as I have never met anyone who had a child go to school in nappies. I worry about everything from 'what will the other children say' to how will it work on a practical level.

Would love some advice/experiences of other mums in this situation please.

Try not to worry too much about it, I have a ds the same age with ASD but our situaton is different as he goes to a special school.

If you post on specail needs children you will get lots of advice from those who have been through it.

My ds2 has asd and is just finishing his first yr in reception. He started ft in nappies and it has only been since easter that we had success with toilet training. He has been wearing pants ft at school for the past two weeks and is doing very well with toilet training now. In our experience his ta was great and it was all done very discreetly. Other children did ask the teacher and she told them we are all different and do things at different stages and this is the stage he is at at the moment. The school have been good but my son does have full time support. They were very concerned about taking a child in nappies and they were reluctant to allow the move into pants at the speed we wanted. They needed lots of encouragement! But it was fine. I sent all supplies in and they managed it well

oops thought I was on chat!!!

Both of my boys started school in nappies - one still is, about to move into year 2 and the other wasn't out until the summer hols after year 2. They'd already gone through nursery, there, so it wasn't a big deal, though I do use several bags to be as discreet as possible about the nappies I'm taking in. DS2 has had some teasing from a few kids in his class, but the same kids have teased him for being non-verbal, as well. In front of their parents who didn't bat an eyelid. Most kids are fine and don't even bat an eyelid, though.

And I just had a lot of eyelids not being batted in my last post

DD (asd and statemented) started reception in pull ups - she had a TA who was fine with changing her. Fortunately DD never did poo's at school just wee's (tmi probably!) so I suppose that did make it easier for the TA.
TA was very discreet just took DD to the cubicle and changed her when necessary. The other kids did not mention anything as far as I know.
I just used to put pull-ups, sacks, wipes in a toiletery bag.

DD was fully toilet trained over the summer hols just after she turned five so it was a great relief for me that she was able to start year one in knickers!!
I thought we would never get there but we did. It is very stressful I know. At least one other child at DD's school with SN was also not toilet trained until after five years old. Please do not worry - it can be common in children with SN's to be late with toilet training. The important thing is your school seem to be understanding.

Same experience as the posters above. DS2 wasn't out of nappies until he was 6 and only stopped having poo accidents at 8 ( never at school though). School always fine about it (he has 1:1). Other children asked occasionally and were just told that he hadnt learnt to use the toilet yet but would do so one day. They accepted it, I guess because he has always seemed younger than his peers anyway.

And all children in reception will have an accident at some point. The TA will spend a lot of time changing children without SEN who have had accidents. I know its not the same as going in nappies but there are a lot of other children who have problems too. In fact some get so freaked out by school they have lots and lots of accidents having been dry for ages.

Thank you so much for all the posts.

I don't know why I worry so much, as there is little I can do about the situation.

Its always comforting to know that others have been down this road and survived!