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My 15 yo dd.

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Pumpster · 13/07/2012 21:37

Dd is 15, had problems since she was 9 but things worsened over the last year or so. She takes anti depressants and anti psychotics for low mood and hallucinations. Recently she has also been diagnosed aspergers.
She has not been in school since October. She has a statement now and was meant to be starting at a special school in September, but a taster day has confirmed that they cannot provide the specialist support needed and also if is not academically suitable. Dd does not have learning difficulties, her problems are emotional, mental and behavioral.
Also 2 weeks ago I discovered that she had been secretly chatting on dating sites at her (disabled) dad's house, on his carers laptop. She met up with a man and was talked into sex, the man was arrested and bailed.
Since this i have found that yet again she has been finding ways to get online and chat to men.
I work and have little children, she spends a lot of time at her dad's. He is a good dad but has serious health issues and although he promises me all Internet routes have been eliminated, she remains vulnerable. She has no friends apart from my dsd.
Loneliness is a factor in what has happened and the only thing I can think of is residential school to meet her needs and keep her safe. I'm going to to speak to the priory group but where to start - how to get funding- how to find the right place for her. She wants to board btw, she knows she cannot carry on like this.
Help!

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Ineedalife · 13/07/2012 22:37

Hi pumpster and welcome to the board, i have no advice for you but didnt want your post to go unanswered.

I am glad your Dd has been given a diagnosis, girls with aspergers are often missed and van end up with many other issues such as depression and eating disorders.

I hopr you manage to find a school suitable for her and that she can get back on track.

Keep coming on here it is a great place for support, advice or just to vent among people who dont judge and know what you are going through.

Good luckSmile.

NoHaudinMaWheest · 13/07/2012 23:56

You need to find the right school then get the statement amended to name that school and no it is not going to be easy. There are lots of people on here with experience of doing it though (mine was a rather different situation and quite a long time ago). If you post with a specific question about eg getting named school changed that should bring the right answers.

Does your Dd have a social worker, support from CAMHS because their opinion and recommendations will be vital as well as helping in the meantime.

Also don't delay with this because once she hits 16 SN support is much harder to access.

Davros · 14/07/2012 08:23

I think you need to contact Social Services for some support and advice.
Also, there is quite a community out there for teens/adults with AS which could be great for her. If you are in London you could contact Autism London as they do social groups for people with AS, although possibly too old for your DD, also look for a local NAS Branch and the NAS centrally. If she goes to a residential school that is appropriate for her that would provide a peer group as that is what is seems she needs. Good luck.

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