HELP-how do i stop dd constant babbling+jumping around at bedtime??

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Hi.... I am dreading bedtime already and its only
1.30pm. Since moving dd into a bed her bedtime routine seems to be going downhill. I have started to lie with her on the bed (to get her to stay in bed) that's ok, I can do that for a while but what is driving me absolutely insane is the constant babbling, it goes something like 'la la oooohhh' 'la la oooohhh, doooooo, dooooo, eee,eee EEEHHH!, dooooo, la la eeee' u get the picture I'm sure. I don't notice it so much in the day and I don't think she babbles THAT much. But the last 3nights it taken 2hours to go off to sleep and the noises are driving me insane I'm afraid, I'm trying to stay patient. Any ideas on how to get her to relax a bit please?? She does kick+move around loads too as if she can't keep still. I've stopped any daytime naps hoping she wld be tired+ready for bed at night. She is 3 in sep, s+l delay (can't speak but babbles a lot) and possible asd.

Sorry - I wish I knew :) - we put stairgate on bedroom door when he was first in a bed. Won't cure the problem, but at least you can go to bed yourself secure in the knowledge that she isn't going any further than her bedroom.
NAS have a sheet on their website about trying to get them to sleep - mine did improve slowly and now aged 10 he will eventually SHUT UP if you tell him to. And he stays in his own bed most of the time, but it has taken a good while go get there - so I think you need some 'sanity preservation' strategies to run at the same time - maybe earplugs if the noise annoys you?? a radio on a timer to send you to sleep if you are afraid that you won't hear something important with ear plugs in?

It sounds like she has a lot to tell you at bed time!! Apologies if this is a stupid idea, or you've already tried, but could you say to her when she gets into bed, that you will sit and have a chat about your day, then once you have had a good chat, then it is time for sleep. That way she gets chance to get it all out, as part of her routine, but once you leave it is time for being quiet and sleeping?

Thanks notonurnelly we have bought a stairgate for her door but she is a climber+climbs up on her chest of drawers etc as soon as we leave the room so I still feel a bit paranoid leaving her alone! Maybe earplugs as I was actually lying there with my fingers in my ears last nite to try+save my sanity lol!
Notinmylife thanks for the idea but dd can't speak and wouldn't understand that, she doesn't really understand simple commands yet. We do have some time on bed b4 lights go out with books/flash cards etc to try+wind down, maybe I need to do this for a bit longer though thanks I will try that tonight

Thanks notonurnelly we have bought a stairgate for her door but she is a climber+climbs up on her chest of drawers etc as soon as we leave the room so I still feel a bit paranoid leaving her alone! Maybe earplugs as I was actually lying there with my fingers in my ears last nite to try+save my sanity lol!
Notinmylife thanks for the idea but dd can't speak and wouldn't understand that, she doesn't really understand simple commands yet. We do have some time on bed b4 lights go out with books/flash cards etc to try+wind down, maybe I need to do this for a bit longer though thanks I will try that tonight

I did understand she can't speak but I was wondering if her babbling was her way of trying to tell you things, even if she can't form the words yet. I hope you get it sorted soon!

It's hard isn't it. When my Aspie was that age, bedtimes were the only time he was interested in playing with me or having any sort of 'conversation' so it was quite hard not to resist. We eventually put a stairgate on his door and left him to it, just quietly putting him back in bed if he called a lot. He is now very good at bedtimes.
DS2 however now shares a room with his older brother and is very excitable and resistant to bed so he gets put down in our bed where it's less exciting and we move him later when he's asleep.

Thanks, I was looking at it like she was babbling to try keep herself awake but maybe she does just want to chat for a bit. Ill try chatting back for a little while and see if that helps her relax quicker :)

Thanks, I was looking at it like she was babbling to try keep herself awake but maybe she does just want to chat for a bit. Ill try chatting back for a little while and see if that helps her relax quicker :)

Thanks, I was looking at it like she was babbling to try keep herself awake but maybe she does just want to chat for a bit. Ill try chatting back for a little while and see if that helps her relax quicker :)

Have you tried a hot bath?
With Epsom salts?
And lavender oil on her pillow?

Thanks indigo, hadn't thought of lavender oil, I will try that, I looked a while back on ebay for epsom salts but wasn't sure which to get, do you know where I could get them from please?

Thanks indigo, hadn't thought of lavender oil, I will try that, I looked a while back on ebay for epsom salts but wasn't sure which to get, do you know where I could get them from please?

I'm afraid I've no answers for you. I just wanted to sympathise.

My DD will be 3 in August & is a climbing, non-verbal, babbling, whirling dervish of a child & bedtime is my least favourite time of day.
She's waiting for an ASD assessment.

If you do find any answers then please let me know

Hi Wandadoff wow lol that sounds exactly like dd, ill let u know when/if I find something that works :)

Hi Wandadoff wow lol that sounds exactly like dd, ill let u know when/if I find something that works :)

Epsom Bath Salts - I buy the 25kg sack.

ours have a cd player with their fav music playing low, for the past year that has been 'joseph' not sure if that might help. my oldest girl could never unwind and we tapes (a few years back!) of us saying bed time stories. i am guessing you already have black out curtains etc..
good luck!

Thanks indigo

Mummytofive-the music is a good idea thanks, maybe she doesn't like it being so quiet so she fills the silence with babbling?? Or at least it might quieten her down if she wants to hear the music she will have to stop babbling for a bit.
Thanks for all the ideas, feel a bit more positive now I have new ideas to try

how did last night go? hope dd settled a little bit quicker, just as a thought, my friends ds had problems settling when little and she had to do this mad and long programme of lying next to him as usual, then the next night lying on the floor, then after a few nights lying with her feet in the hall and head in the room, then the other way round and finally she had to leave her shoes in the room! i know this sounds long and barking mad, but it did work. my youngest was my worst for settling, but now he has his joseph music he is ok. our only problem is i have 3dc sharing the room and one likes joseph, one likes annie and the other likes lil princess story tape so we go youngest 1st! good luck and i hope your dd settles a wee bit quicker each night, maybe jot the times down so you can see the progress?