I can't remember anything :(

[molepom]

I have ds's ASD assessment on Friday and I have a questionaire to fill out.

I need to list a few things that ds liked to do when he was 2, 3 and 4 years old...only I can't remember anything. It's all a blur. I only remember having to run around after him, feeding him, trying to get him to eat, trying to take him places...and dealing with the fucking school and being oh, so very, very tired.

Can you please list things that your kids liked to do at that age and see if it triggers any memories for me?

Molepom, have you tried looking back at some photos of your ds at those ages to see if it triggers any memories? I'm always amazed what comes back to me when we get the photos out.

Photos may help.

Thanks.

I'll pop into his nursery later on as well and see if they can remember anything. I feel like an utter failure not remembering anything.

Was he mad about certain tv characters? Thomas Did he have favourite toys? Did he collect things? We still have bits that ds collected when he was small, does he have some treasured items?

If you have kept all nursery information (like me) then this should be really useful. I worked from both dc's being 8 wk old (bad mum but I had to) and their notes on milestones has helped me remember things. Even in their little assessments I read "ds is very easily distracted but he gets extremely involved in self chosen activities and won't continue until he's finished the activity"

My dd is 2.10 she likes to watch the same DVDs repeatedly, will not sleep, likes to spit on surfaces and run her Thomas trains through it, runs out the front door if its not locked, loves being outside jumping on her trampoline, hates crowded places, loves eating junk food, hates hairbrushing and nail cutting, loves been spun in circles, loves shutting doors/gates/drawers/babygates. Hth. Also I second looking in his little red HV baby book and school reports

dd at 3 - would make eye contact. wouldnt talk. banged head on floor/walls when not getting own way. daily meltdowns. scratches, bites, kicks, and head-butts people if doesnt get own way.no sence of danger. no pain threshhold. fingers in plug sockets, turning taps on constantly. running out of the door at any available opportunity. not seaking out other children in play. repetitive in play in the same scene played again and again and again. lining things up. chewing things. eating snails etc. screaming for hours if a routine is disrupted, even by the tinyest thing. having to go the same route places. pre-empting situations (usually wrongly). pretty much a year of not being able to do anything that involved taking my eyes of dd for a second.
not sleeping - EVER

Cause and effect toys? Pop up pets, shape sorters, car tracks. Anything that gave a 'reward' if you pressed a button or a dropped a ball in? My DS would scatter toys about but wouldn't play imaginatively with them. For the dolls house, he'd open and close the doors and ring the door bell and slide the dolls down the roof, but never got the dolls to 'do' anything.

As above, he'd still be mouthing toys, gravel, sand, snails at 3 and 4. He'd chew clothes, collar and cuffs! He absolutely loved computer games. He'd run about in a circuit around the house, banging the front door. Light switches on and off, doors open and shut.

He'd watch the same scene on a video over and over, never getting bored of it but never wanting to watch the whole story. He loved action songs on children's programmes. No functional language until 3 1/2 or so, although he could identify a square, triangle, circle, cube, cylinder, sphere etc! He couldn't say drink, or biscuit or wee wee.

Eye contact fine as a baby, losing it at 12 months, gone by 18 months, back by 5 or 6 yo.

Hopefully some of this will help you.

Anyone took any home movies you could look at. First birthday party, was he walking, talking at that time etc. This helped jog my memories a lot. Family can help you remember on certain visits they had or stories from when they babysat?