So...we've found a new school

[UnChartered]

DH and i spent half our holiday week looking round and talking about new schools, and have found one!

right on the doorstep, MS with a DSP unit attached but with the emphasis greatly on inclusion.

as DD hasn't got a statement (yet, still looking at that aspect) we're going to apply to MS but know that she will access increased support and ASD awareness due to having DSP unit on site.

so big question is...wtf do we do now wrt to DD attending school i mean

can't go into logistics of application etc as too specific but WWYD about schooling for now?

what i mean is schools are now gearing up to get DCs ready for change, meeting new teachers etc, end of term and moving on up parties etc...

i think this is going to be mightly confusing and distressing for DD to sit out of, so do i withdraw her from current place now (4weeks early) - i know the new school will allow prolonged (accompanied) visits from us...

any input will help...please

Is the move to the new school definite? If so, then maybe you could home school for the last few weeks. I wouldn't want you to get into a pickle though, if de-registering her would give the LA any loopholes to wriggle through irt getting the new placement. Would a sympathetic GP sign her off with school anxiety?

oh lawks

i'm having a wobble about changing schools now - DH is working and i can't contact him for a bit of a chat

i'm doing the right thing, aren't i?

SENCO witholding social stories, not updating IEPs until 6 weeks after review meeting, dismissing OT recommendations, contacting CAMHS/SALT to ask about dx, refusing Ed Psych appt, DD still not toiletting at school is good enough reason to think she's not being supported isn't it?

reread your old thread about the senco, remember why you started looking for an alternative It's perfectly ok to have a wobble!

thanks Ninja

i'm terrified of getting a reputation and then DD being singled out for this - it's a small town

trying not to wobble too much

You are doing the right thing :) You are following a parents instinct that all is not ok.

Going down the GP route is a good idea as this also adds another string to your bow about moving her.

Unchartered, I was in almost this position just over 12 months ago.

I found a school with a resource provision for physical disabilities, not at all what Dd3 needed but a fantastic SEN team and the best inclusion practise for miles around.

I had 1 day to make a decision about whether to accept a place or not as it was the end of the spring term and we were about to break up.

With the fantastic support from the lovely people on here I took the plunge and went for it.

I cant tell you what a great move it was, Dd3 is literally like a different child at school. The whole staff team but especially the SEN team are just so tuned in to the children, the support for the whole family is great and I only wish I had done it sooner.

I agree with others who have said, take her out now, do your transition and start again from september.

Good luck

Ineed

thank you for understanding and saying exactly our reasons for liking the new school

i've got a grip of myself again now, and yes, i think she would be best out of school asap so we can have a clean break, prepare for the next chapter.

(next week on MNSN..UnChartered's thread about how to explain to DD wtf is going on.)

everyone

I was nearly sick with dread on the afternoon when I knew I had to tell Dd3 she was moving schools.

I took her up to my room and cuddled up to her on the bed and told her that daddy and i had been to look at a new school and that we really liked it and we thought that she ought to go there.

She looked at me and said "Yes" and did that thing that kids do when they go kerching with their arm IYKWIM

I felt so stupid that I had been so worried about telling her, when she was desperate to leave and very unhappy but totally unable to tell me.

My advice with the benefit of hindsight would be just to go for it.

Good luck