I really want to knock some sense into EXH !!!

[GossipWitch]

I have a 10 year old son who has recently been diagnosed with ADHD and will be getting assessed for ASD also, I have been trying to get a diagnoses for my son as has the school, as his behaviour can be very challenging, but his father seems to think he's doing these things for a reaction or attention, and as he doesn't see half the things I have to deal with on his once a week visitation, he believes they don't exist, I want to knock some sense into him!!!!. Does anyone else have this issue with anyone close to them and if so how do you tell them to get over it or kindly fuck off?

Gossip my STBXH denies the ASD diagnosis I finally got for our DS. It is apparently all an attempt by me to draw attention to myself.

I used to get upset about it. I used to get annoyed that his father wont adhere to professional recommendations; and certainly wont cooperate with anything that I find helps DS.

So I just stopped trying. I still copy him on all relevant information (to protect myself from accusations of isolating him) but I expect absolutely nothing, diddley squat from Ex.

Thats the only way to deal with my ex. Ignore, detach, expect nothing.

same here porridge...My xp wouldn't and hasn't accepted anything about asd/adhd with his DS

Barely ever see him or hear from him now so it's not a great issue now....
It was when my DS came home very angry with me after a visit with his dad and told me his DD had said...'your mother shouldn't be giving you any drugs' and his mother said that I needed a good slap!!

I had a bit of a war at that point with xp and said if he didn't give and use the medication then DS would not be visiting.

I tried getting the specialist to phone him, sent all the reports for him to read etc...waste of time though

Ignore and delete....thats what I did....I never attempt contact now and he never bothers

It's not a good thing for DS to wonder whether his DF even likes him...never mind love him......I imagine this too shall pass and one day my DS will address things for himself and make his own decisions.....right now DS hasn't spoken or seen his DF since new year and doesn't want to either....

It's not how I wanted things but can't do anything more than I have...

I believe that many many DF's feel that their DC's are a reflection of themselves and they just don't want to see that their DC's may be less than their idea of perfect...so they deny it and deny their DC's in so doing.....sad but I fear very true

This might be useful, you could cut and paste maybe.

oh yes silk ... I got this the other day and have printed it out...just need to get the font increased as it'stiny to read at mo...this is a great link...for anyone and much appreciated...thank you :)

To increase the font and make it readable, press control and scroll up.

Sorry, that is for veiwing on the comp.

think if I use a diff printer I can resize it and then print it off again...I think?!!

Copy and paste, create word document, enlarge?

Aaah yes this might be the way forward...I'll give it a go later on :)