having some small niggles about DD2 (DD1 has autism)

[chocjunkie]

DD1 (4) has autism and is more on the low functioning side.

DD2 is just 18 months and I started getting some niggles. she is totally different to DD1. DD2's speech is pretty good for her age (100+ words, linking words, excellent receptive language skills). her communication in general is just great; really good joint attention, brings me things to show me, starting to do pretend play, she waves, points and tells me what she wants etc.

but there are some things which make me : she sensory pretty defensive, she screams her head off at the lightest bit of dirt or food on her hand (she only eats with spoon and fork, not hands ); she has massive trantrums when things are not right (e.g. if I give her the wrong spoon). just little things like that but it is becoming more and more apparent.

as I don't have really any experience of parenting a NT child I just wanted to ask if these kind of things are also normal in NT children?

Yes they are, I wouldn't worry

They can be choc!

My dd is very particular and controlling. Her SN is She's 3.

Have you tried the autism questionnaires?

Her SN is precosciousness

my NT child went through phase like this. became hysterical if you took his socks off and hundreds of other little quirks. I still hesitate before taking his socks off, he's six now and very laid back! oh yes, and hand dryers were a major problem for a time.

they are very odd at 18mths. the difference for me was that my first NT's child's quirks were just irritating, whilst my second child's quirks filled me with inner fear, even though on the face of it they looked quite similar.

you are in a very particular situation because of your DD1 so as you say it is hard to judge. I'd always say go with your gut instinct.

thank you all, good to know.

MCHAT comes back as low risk.

think I will keep a very close eye on things.

At that age my nt dd1 would want to change her entire clothes if she got a speck of water on them.
She hated handdriers, although not as much as ds does, he won't go into one set of toilets at Legoland because apparently those handdriers are especially noisy.