CAMHS want to talk to dd1 alone

[lisad123]

Dd1 had her 3 rd appointment with CAMHS, they have back tracked and decided its not all my fault and linked with dh cancer. They have suggested they write to school to explain what their actions are doing to her!
However, the therapist asked if dd1 would see her alone, dd1 agreed to this but on the day wouldn't let me leave the room.
They have asked us to work on this this week and hope she will come in alone next week.

I'm sure this is quite normal, and tbh I will try anything to help her.
This is normal isn't it?

how old is your dd again?

9

I would say it is normal lisad seeing as they had to take DS away for assessing without us there at camhs. Also he had a health and mental state check in london on his own too.

But DS doesnt have the anxiety around adults and will talk to any adult, plus anyone new aids his inquisitiveness. He will go in first and run out after if needs be!

If your DD has high anxiety maybe they could arrange for you to stay in the room with say.....headphones playing music? facing the wall? A chair placed outside the room so that your DD can run to you if she needs you? so you are technically in there with her as far as she is concerned but cannot hear or get involved with the proffs assessment.

It is great that they have had a change of heart (saw sense) that it wasnt your circumstances that was affecting your dd and that they are now going to write to the school though! :)

Very normal for CAMHS to see the child alone.

DS refused and I used to sit in with him until he had tghe confidence to meet them without me. At that stage I would just pop in for 10 mins at the end of the session for an update.

V normal. Ds1 has independent sessions with the outreach worker (Camhs equiv) and his full psycho- Ed assessment was alone. Important to get feedback on your own though, so that you can tie up loose ends and understand the process.

Dd2 has had lots of stuff on her own since about 6, lol. Not camhs, but she has cp, so lots of other therapies. I think it's only natural to worry more about mh stuff because of the way we are socialized.

Ds has come up with really interesting stuff on his own that I would never had guessed at.