How do you deal with biting?

[JackJacksmummy]

Just picked up ds from school and his teacher took me aside to tell me about an incident at lunch time where this boy took something of my sons and wouldn't give it back, my ds got very angry and frustrated and instead of telling a teacher he lashed out and bit the other child :(

He has been disciplined by the school - lost all his golden time and the teacher understands he did it out of frustration and both boys were in the wrong.

The mother of the child made a complaint because the bite bruised - I feel terrible and have also told him off.

What would you do now?

I don't know what age your DS is but maybe it doesn't matter

I wouldn't punish at home either...when you know school have dealt with it.

I would be talking about when things go wrong and what we can do when they happen....maybe make some pictures/social stories to act as reminders...especially for when he gets frustrated or angered...what does he feel he could do, what does he think would help, etc

I agree with anarchist ...this could well be something which began with something else...or may even be on-going with the DC involved in todays' troubles

it's repetition that makes the social stories/plan of action stick

Maybe you could ask school to have a check-in 2-3 times a day..maybe a notebook so school can keep a record and goes in his bag every day?...someone he feels he can talk to or naturally goes to already??...so if DC is worrying, upset or anything...he could maybe have an opportunity to say so and talk about it...
It's another possible way of finding out if there is a pattern, particular DC involved, etc...and it means there is another way which may help this sort of thing not happen

Has he bitten before? If not, it's hopefully a one off. I would work on ways for him to channel his frustrations. I would also speak to the dinner ladies as well about it (as ime stuff like this normally happens at lunch/break time). Try and explain that if he is looking frustrated, remove him from the situation quickly and distract him.

My son is in a SS and he has ASD. One of his class mates bites him often. It's distressing, but I understand why this other dc is doing it. The school are trying everything they can to get to the bottom of why he bites. He also bites himself too

Thank you for all your replies

He has done it before although not often - twice since he started in year 1 this year and both times it seems he has been pushed into it. He doesn't talk very well, particularly when he is angry and it just all comes spilling out so no one can understand what he has just said.

Think the last time he did it he was being chased round the playground being called a girl which he absolutely hates!

I have printed out loads of social story icons today so I am going to try and make a few of those for him and speak to his teacher and TA when they are back on monday inset day today & tomorrow (and am hoping the other child's mother has forgotten )