a bit extreme?

[buzylizy]

could do with your thoughts on this.
In ddd's school/home diary tonight her teacher has said that dd played up today and wouldn't go back into her chair and was kicking. She has said she has told dd that she won't be allowed to make pancakes with the class tomorrow.
Now although I understand that the teacher has to stop dd from doing this. She seems to be so extreme. Last time it was the school trip.
I know that dd is being naughty doing this. But her teacher said that she has been good recently so I just feel that as usual her teacher is being a bit extreme. Surely there are better ways of dealing with this. and surely the cooking is a lesson not a treat!
I am going to suggest a reward system Like if dd is good for a week she gets to have her fave book read to her or something like that.
What are you thoughts on all this?

How old is she? What SN does she have? Is the school following an IEP?

She is 10 has afetoid cp severely disabled ect and in a very good special school
Really I suppose I want to know if going from nothing to this kind of thing is extreme, A few years back when she was doing something similar I asked the school to punish her(not let her play with fave toy at lunc) I was told that "oh we don't so that we reinforce good behavior)

Seems ott for one 'issue' IMHO.

Hmm the punishment sounds a bit late- what's the point of withdrawing a privilege tomorrow??? Is the teacher experienced?

Agree that cooking is essential. I can understand that there are times when they may not be able to risk taking a child out into the community for whatever reason, but cooking???

I think that any punishment should be immediate. IMHO punishing her the next day is OTT , especially if her recent behaviour has been generally good.

Have to say dd is not normally naughty. She is one of the more able children in her class(7children in class) and I do think sometimes she plays up to get attention as the other children have such complex needs. When she played up today it was at hometime so the teacher couldn't do anyhting straight away. her teacher is lovely and VERY expiereced but just seems to over react at times. (She did take dd on school trip) I just feel a good stern telling off would have done the trick.(we never have this at home as I just wouldn't allow her to do it.

I'm with Jimjams in that, she may be good as gold tomorrow but getting punished for soemthing today! Very strange and not fair to drag up yesterdays behaviour.

I'd have a word.

I have spoken to dd's teacher and she is very understanding. She feels that the kicking out when she has to go back in her wheelchair is because it is the only thing she can "control" during school time they give her a choice stander or chair so that she has control but moves on. Has anyone any ideas about what we can do at home time?